Tattoos on bridesmaids: What should I do?

Compare: My FH and I go to the gym and eat healthy. My Dad is a personal trainer and former Mr Olympia. I have a friend that I want to be a BM but shes kind of fat. Is it ok to ask her to lose weight or wear a girdle so my photos don't look yucky and his Father isn't disgusted by her personal choice to be fat?

Nicoletta, you know its a silly thing to worry about and its awesome you wanna make everything perfect so nobody has anything to even possibly be "bothered" by. but enjoy your day with your people, don't worry about others peoples panties getting in a bunch! have fun!!!

I agree that it's rude and I would personally NEVER ask any of my friends to cover up - but since you're looking for solutions:

Shawl

Bolero

Have them get dresses that cover them - they do make dresses with high backs and longer sleeves

It amazes me that you care more about what you family THINKS than how your bridemaids FEEL.

Its totally my family...the are ULTRA conservative but will have to deal with it on this day...LOL. I will get them some pretty faux fur wraps and will not even mention tattoos!! That way they can stay warm and my mother won't have a heart attack LOL.

Future Mrs, I care about how both my friends and family FEELS and that is why I posted this thread and listed to everyone and took their feelings to heart.

I only want to point out that were probably more tattooed women than you realize during that era. The first wave of women with ink started in the 1880's. The very wealthy actually went to the Orient to get Japanese tattoos. The first actual "tattooed lady" made her debut 1907. Then in the 1910's, another rise in tattooed women

If it's not your thing, that's fine, I just thought I'd throw some history out there

Do you have pictures of the edwardian the ed bridesmaid dresses? Maybe we can help you search the internet for something that works?

Oh I had no idea, how interesting. Thanks for the history.

This is an interesting topic for me because I have a visible tattoo (a large one, on the inside of my arm. It's a gray scale bonsai tree in honor of my dad and is very pretty), and am getting married, then a few weeks later will be the MOH for one of my best friend's wedding. Now, I would never ever ask any of my BM's to cover up their tattoos (they're small anyways), because I chose them based on them, not their looks. When I hear about people asking their BM's to cover up, my initial reaction is that it's rude, however, the first time I saw a post like that on here, I told my friend I would cover mine for her wedding if she wanted and thought nothing of it. In reality I am so honored to be in my friend's wedding that I would walk down the aisle on my hands if she asked.

So, while the general idea of asking someone to change their appearance to suit your tastes is very rude, I really wonder if your BM's would have a problem with it because the thought crossed my mind of my own accord to cover up my tats for my friend.

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Oh thanks Punk Princess, here are the dresses, we got them in amethyst, they are more Edwardian/vintage style then actually historical costumes.

Nicoletta, I seem to be in the minority here, but I understand where you're coming from. My sister has recently (after we selected dresses) gotten a lot of tattoos that will be visible. While I love my sister and definitely want her to be in the wedding, I don't want her colorful tattoos to stick out in wedding photos. Fortunately, she approached me about the situation and offered to cover them, if I'd like.

In your situation, I think having all the girls wear wraps is a good solution. That seems like a good compromise for everyone, even if your girls don't know! :-) Good luck.

I don't think there is a nice way of asking them to cover them up. The way I see it, you have two options - either you accept your friends for who they are and what they look like, or you do not have them as part of your wedding. No matter how "nice" you ask, it's incredibly insulting.

Actually the girl who has the arm tattoo ( who really is my closest friend of the bunch) has long hair, she would not have to cover it up if she just wore her hair down, my bridesmaids at the appointment also mentioned it was OK for them to cover it up, I never even brought it up actually yet since I thought it might be rude.

Jhazel, the previous posters already made me aware of that above, if you read my response agreed wth them.

I like your solution of the shawls, as long as you adress it as a temperature issue and not that they have something to cover up. I'd make no mention of that tattoo or cover up at all. Both sides are happy.

Just get the tattoos airbrushed out of the photos. Problem solved.

Yes, Kayla, Shawls for a winter wedding will be so pretty. I think they will all look wonderful

I don't think it's rude to want to go for a certain look - I'm in the same situation. However, I am not comfortable asking them to use makeup to cover it up...while not intentional, it can come off as being judgmental of their tattoo (and some have special meanings behind it). I think adding a shawl is the easiest way to go about this situation (what we ended up doing), so it can easily be removed for the reception and no one has hurt feelings Unfortunately, the bull nose piercing on our BestWomen doesn't not have as simple solution lol

You should not give a toss that your brideamaid have tattoos.

I'm sorry for the heated opinion but this drives me crazy. These girls are your close friends and you want them to cover up something they liked so much they permanently put it on their body.

One of my girls has a lot of tattoos. Her dress is split down the back and showcases her huge back piece, plus the dozen she has on her legs. Is it the perfect look I'm doing for? Not really, but I don't care. When I look back at my pictures, I won't see tattoos.....I'll see one of my best friends.

ETA I understand its more the families feelings than yours. But that almost makes it worse, to me. If my or his family specified a preference of how my wedding party looks, I would be outraged at their judgment of my friends

Okay so the only thing I learned in this thread is I can't wear something lady like and vintage because I have tattoos. Hmm that's news to me!