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Elizabeth
Master December 2016

Tacky to indicate Open Bar on invitation?

Elizabeth, on April 18, 2016 at 10:29 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 23

The last wedding invitation I got made it clear they were having a cash bar on the invite. So my MOH and one of my bridesmaids want me to put "reception to follow with open bar" on the invitation/reception card.

My thought was just putting "dinner reception to follow." When people get there, they'll see that it's an open bar, but my MOH thinks it's better to make it clear since cash bars are apparently happening more and more.

Any thoughts?

23 Comments

Latest activity by Natasha, on August 22, 2017 at 10:05 AM
  • Mrs.D
    Master July 2016
    Mrs.D ·
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    I think open bar should be assumed. Cash bar should theoretically be stated though, so its not a surprise. (Im not saying that cash bars are ok, just that guests should know beforehand and have the opportunity to be prepared, ya know?)

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  • FallforLindahl
    VIP June 2017
    FallforLindahl ·
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    I think reception to follow is perfect!

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  • Mrstcd2015
    Dedicated October 2015
    Mrstcd2015 ·
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    Reception to follow.

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  • Kathryn
    VIP August 2016
    Kathryn ·
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    We have an open bar and put the reception info on an insert that said "Please join us after the ceremony for dinner and dancing." I thought they were cute, but "reception to follow" works just as well! No need for the open bar to be stated Smiley smile

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  • RealLindseyO
    Master October 2017
    RealLindseyO ·
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    I don't think you should mention an open bar on the invite. A cash bar was mentioned so people could come prepared but I think an open bar is assumed.

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  • AMW
    Master September 2016
    AMW ·
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    I wouldn't write anything--you should never have to specifically say that you're hosting properly. If the guests bring cash and don't have to use it they'll be happy.

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  • Soon2BMrsB
    VIP October 2016
    Soon2BMrsB ·
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    I think all that's necessary is Reception to Follow. You could play with the wording if you felt like it, but I don't really think it's necessary to state anything about the open bar. I agree with PP, that if for some reason the B&G chose against an open bar, that they should at the very least pre-warn people.

    Not saying this is good, just it's better than people being surprised and not having cash for drinks :/

    Anyway, I would just leave it. We are having just beer and wine (open bar) but aren't stating anything about it on the invites.

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  • Elizabeth
    Master December 2016
    Elizabeth ·
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    Thanks guys! My instincts were the same as yours (to not include it), but wanted to make sure.

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  • Diane
    VIP October 2016
    Diane ·
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    I think dinner reception to follow is sufficient, they will realize it's an open bar when they get to your reception.

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  • Rachel DellaPorte
    Rachel DellaPorte ·
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    No, you don't need to add "open bar" to the invitation. It's not such a forgotten element that you need to point it out (and adding "cash bar" to an invitation is gross -- although some will say it's helpful because the guests can pull money out of an ATM before they get to the reception). If you're having an open bar, just write "Dinner, dancing, and cocktails to follow." That's always told me everything I need to know (i.e., an open bar). Believe me, that's the only type of reception I've ever been invited to, and that's the wording on every invitation. Kudos to you for hosting your guests with the best of the best, Elizabeth.

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  • NowASeptMrs
    Master September 2015
    NowASeptMrs ·
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    Honestly, where I am from cash is more common and it's usually not stated either way you just show up and guess (I did do an open bar). I think it's tacky to put anything, cash or not on there. Our guests were pleasantly surprised by our open bar and so if they had brought cash or not, it didn't matter.

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  • Kristy
    Master November 2015
    Kristy ·
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    No, don't specify. If people bring extra cash expecting to pay, they will be all the more happy to be able to keep it in their wallet.

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  • M
    VIP September 2016
    MrsInSeptember ·
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    It's assumed open bar so you're all good with your gut!

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  • Sept2017AKBride
    VIP September 2017
    Sept2017AKBride ·
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    I don't think you need to mention it. Reception to follow is appropriate

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  • Jacky
    Master June 2017
    Jacky ·
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    I make wedding invitations. Putting details like that on the invitation is basically too much information and out of invitation etiquette. Invites just need to contain the who, what, when, and the where's, as well as a pretty design. So, do definitely use "dinner reception to follow." You can place that details on a separate insertion card along with the invite, or you can include it on your wedding website, if you have one.

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  • BrideMeg
    Super September 2016
    BrideMeg ·
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    I am not including it on the invites but I am putting the kinds of beer and wine that will be available on our wedding site with the menu and hoping that guests just assume it is not a cash bar lol.

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  • Nonna T
    Master April 2014
    Nonna T ·
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    We put it on our website under faqs after someone asked in their congratulatory e mail Smiley smile

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  • Kaylie
    Master May 2016
    Kaylie ·
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    I've seen some people write something along the lines of "Dinner, drinks, and dancing to follow". It sort of suggests that drinks will be provided free of charge but some people might just take it to mean that there's alcohol available in general. It's probably not necessary either way. People don't need to "be prepared" for an open bar.

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  • Mrs. Coakley
    Master June 2017
    Mrs. Coakley ·
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    Nah you don't need to. The reason why people write cash bar is so people can be prepared and come with cash (still tacky) but they don't need anything for an open bar so not necessary to include it!

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  • Emily O.
    VIP June 2016
    Emily O. ·
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    Open bar should be assumed, although most people bring cash to weddings in case there happens to be a cash bar or parking fees. I would just put "reception to follow." If it's during meal time hours, people will assume there will be a meal served.

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