Tacky or Ok?

Hair/makeup/nails is an underrated topic of discussion within bridal parties. If you have a diverse group of ladies, it can be awkward navigating the extent of their individual beauty needs. I have a few in my group who believe nobody can do their makeup better than themselves, some who hate people touching their hair, and some who want to be done up by someone else from head to toe. I'm personally a firm believer that it's all part of the wedding day experience, and that getting these things done together is a good bonding activity. I suggest you approach it in that manner as well. Tell your maids that it would mean a lot to you if they participated in all the "girly" aspects of your big day as well.

I don't think it sounds tacky at all. I think you're being really generous with everything. I don't see a problem with the nail polish but my sister was in a friends wedding and she requested the same thing. My sister actually had to tell her she couldn't do it bc of her job (they were only allowed to have natural looking nail colors or a French manicure but it couldn't stand out) As long as your bridesmaids don't have a problem, I don't see why it would be an issue.

Some people like to have more control over all the details (myself included) and other people are more laid back. I'm picking out the dress, colors, hair style, all that for my wedding party and I have a friend who's letting her bridesmaids pick their own dresses as long as it's a wedding color. Personally, I couldn't do that but to each their own, Enjoy your big day

*side note* I would take into account how others feel about their hair being done, make up choices, ect. Everyone in my party just keeps telling me it's whatever I want. I read other posts and realized I sounded a bit bridezilla-ish and decided to add on the note lol I wouldn't make my sister have an all up hair style if she hated her hair being up

Since you are making it optional for them and giving them the option to do their own than I would say you are 100% fine having them pay for this on their own.

I myself will be doing all my own to cut cost , i let my ladies know if they have someone they insist on doing there's its on their own terms im not paying for their pampering if i'm not doing it for myself and they are all on board especially ones who don't feel the need for extra cost they will all be beautiful

In agreement the nail color thing may be a little much but if you were going to have a color I could paint them with to match there then I wouldn’t complain or think anything negative about you. I probably wouldn’t get them done if I couldn’t pick the color but I wouldn’t care either.

When I got married all my bridesmaids kept asking me if I wanted a certain color. I thought it was an odd question but again, I wouldn’t be offended. It sounds like you’re being really thoughtful towards them and these services and so I think you’re fine

I know that, and have done it myself, and it's still annoying and time consuming. I was giving OP another perspective on why I (and a lot of other people who responded) thought the nail polish thing was too much, and so whether I'm paying to get it removed, or having to sit with acetone soaked cotton balls stuck to my fingers for however long, it is still annoying and I stand by that.

Yeah, I think that dictating the exact shade of polish is a bit too much. Maybe you can suggest they choose something from the same color family? As for the hair, yes, you can pay for that, but it might be too much if you tell them that they have to get the exact same style as each other. I've been to a wedding where the bride wanted us all to wear our hair down. So we did, but I think we were allowed variations of "down" such as a fancy half-pony.

I think that you are good.

I think it's ok. I am having a HMUA come to the hotel. If they want it, they can get it, they can pay for it. Nails for me = do whatever.

I have tried to be very non-demanding. I also had it so all bridesmaids could pick their own dress styles and their own shoes.