Sweetheart Table or Head Table?

We're doing head table - in a square so we can all talk to each other. I think I'd feel "on display" with a sweetheart table or a head table that just faces everyone else - and I'm just not into that.

We've haven't decided on this yet either. I don't want to be on display (like mentioned already) but either way, you kinda are.

We are having a head table. I just think it creates a nice focal point for your space. And an obvious place to look when MOH and Best Man are making toasts. Only 1 of our 10 wedding party members is in a relationship. FSIL has a long-term boyfriend who already knows all of FH's family and will have plenty of people to sit with through dinner. They can sit whatever they want after dinner is over. I just like how head tables look, and they are common in our area. I didn't know that sweetheart tables or king's tables were a thing until I came to this forum.

We were planning on a head table, but ended up with sweetheart. We wanted the BP to be able to sit with their dates and family.

I haven't seen a head table in like ...ever. Almost all of my couples do a sweetheart with their bridal party and S/o's or guests (yes, they should all be invited to have one) at tables near them.

I did a sweetheart table for my last wedding and I really liked it and will do it again. It gave us the opportunity to have a few moments of semi-privacy (which is almost non-existent on your wedding day). I personally don't like most head tables it reminds to much of "The Last Supper" painting with Jesus and his disciples. I personally want any reminders of anything so morbid on my wedding day.

Sweetheart. Head tables are awkward

ETA: They're awkward for us. Plus right now our BP is completely uneven. I want my friends to sit with one another and they're not all in my wedding so I'll just seat them together. FH hates socializing anyway, so just us works better for us.

Following this post, we are undecided as well!

Actually going with a kings table! Want all of our bridesmaids/groomsmen to be with their SOs but also want to enjoy our time with them to! For us our reception is spending our time with our friends and family so a big table with everyone talking sharing stories is exactly how I want to spend our time!

We're doing a sweetheart table. The last wedding my FH was in, they did a head table and it was so awkward and boring to not see him the whole night!

Why would you want to sit alone at your wedding? I agree the head table is too "Last Supper" (with the exception of the person with the square one) but a table for two sounds awful as well. Why don't people just have round tables with their family/bridal party etc? We aren't doing a sit down event but if we WERE I'd sit with FH, our three kids in their 20s and their dates at a round table, close to my sisters.

I would say do the Kings table like @athena p. I find sweetheart tables rude, you invite all these people to an event and then sit at a table by yourself, it's just my opinion. I get why some find head tabled awkward too but I think they are better than sweetheart tables. We plan to just sit with who we want (we're doing an open seating plan. I'm sure we'll both table hop.

Yeah, I've been trying to decide this - as one of my BM's boyfriend won't know a single other person at the wedding and I was worried about him sitting alone if we did a head table. That said I really don't like Sweetheart tables - I just think they are awkward and kind of weird.

I asked my BM what she would prefer and she told me to just put him on a table with people I figured he'd get on with and he'd manage just fine (plus they will be there the day before the wedding and so will meet a lot of the family in advance).

I'm still not sure I feel good about leaving him on his own though - so we might let the BM's and GM's sit with the guests and have the head table with me, FH, his parents, my Mum and my brother (who will be traveling alone and is acting as FOB seeing as my dad passed away. He will be able to keep my Mum company)

Just for clarification... is a King's Table all the bridal party and their dates?

Nicola, we have a similar problem - one of my bridesmaids has a husband who speaks mostly Spanish and would feel very much alone if he is separated from her.

Yes a kings table is like the picture below for the BP and their dates. This is an example and probably similar to what we will have

Wedding party is sitting with their families. We will be sitting together with our parents.

We're definitely having a sweetheart table. Not a fan of head tables

I'll be following this post too. I thought we'd do a head table simply because that's what we're used to seeing. We went to one wedding with a sweetheart table and I found it super awkward...it does feel like you're "on display," as someone else said. I also like that the head table is a "focal point" for the room. However, I know some people think that a head table is incredibly rude to the WP's dates, which I can also see. We feel so torn!

ETA: I've never actually seen a king's table done, and while I like the idea, is it weird to have some people's backs to the rest of the room?

We're doing a sweetheart table because we want our BP to sit with their SO's/dates. I also like the idea of having a private table with my FH.

A head table for me was always out of the question. I have just been debating sweetheart and kings. Right now we are looking at doing kings so we can fit everyone in the venue. If we have more declines then anticipated we might go back to sweetheart. In our wedding party there is only one person who is not married our have kids.