Superstitions about seeing the bride in the dress - Discussion

My FH and I are NOT going to see each other before the wedding! He has not seen me in the dress and he won't either. The first time he sees me is when I am walking down the aisle! We are actually very supersticious. When the Eagles play, we have special attire we wear. I would not want my fiance to see me in my dress before the big day, but personal preferences, and a little bit of tradition thrown in.

I think it goes back to times when two people were betrothed to get married. Basically they don't see each other until "it's too late" is what I think the tradition is.

I used to think I didn't want FH to see me until I walked down the aisle but over the past few months, I'm starting to think that it's not super important to me. I think we'd much rather spend time with our guests during cocktail hour and take our pictures pre-ceremony. But if you would've asked me pre-engagement, I would've said heck no I'm not risking anything bad happening just because FH saw my dress.

ETA - the tradition is basically since the bride is usually betrothed to a wealthier man, they didn't want the groom to call off the wedding because the bride wasn't "pretty enough". Same with the veil, I think, to hide her potentially "ugly" face from the groom until after they're officially married.

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Ahah! We are the same way with the Eagles games! I told him the only reason they lost this last Sunday was because we were out of town watching it in a bar & he forgot HIS eagles shirt.

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Lol see I never knew that about the betrothal and being pretty enough haha! Yeah, lately I have been on and off about a first look, but I'm really wondering what the whole "seeing her in the dress" thing is about"

We are not doing first looks and he will not see me until I am walking down the aisle, it's a personal choice for both of us, and really not dependent on any superstition, for us at least!

I don't plan on including my FH in on the dress buying, but I do plan on having a first look the day of. I want the first look to be a surprise. Hope that helps lol.

We are doing a first look. I want that moment to be private between FH and I. We can get the romantic pictures captured before the ceremony. The ceremony will still be very special and we are writing our own vows. FH won't see my dress until that day though because I want to surprise him. I'm not really one for following old wives tales. If people get divorced, it's not because the bride was seen in the dress before the ceremony.

So exH knew nothing about my dress and didn’t see me until I walked down the aisle. I don’t know that it was a superstition thing- just a tradition neither of us thought should be broken.

That being said, when H and I got married we did a first look and it was my favorite part of the day. He also knew a lot about my dress, was with me when I bought my shoes, and had seen my HMU trial so the first look was mostly just for some private time and so he could see the whole look together.

Not a superstition for us either, but I want the first time he sees me in the dress to be as I walk down the aisle.

The tradition stems from arranged marriages. The whole idea was that the bride and groom were not allowed to see each other until the bride walked down the isle to prevent anyone backing out of the wedding beforehand.

It just really depends on preference. FH didn't want to see my dress beforehand, and I respect that. I could probably have cared less, but it is kind of fun just to keep my dress a secret from him since he knows almost every other aspect of the wedding.

I wouldn't care if my FH saw me in the dress before. He's the one who wants to be surprised actually. Not for any superstitious reason though as we'll be doing a first look on the day.

I am not superstitious. My DH saw a picture of me in my dress after I purchased it and then we saw each other before the ceremony for first look/photos etc.

In the beginning of planning I said that FH would not see me till I walked down the aisle. But FH and I are not that superstitious so we are doing a first look.

My husband did not see my dress before the wedding (t was hanging in my closet the whole time, but he's not super observant -- plus, seeing it on the hanger was different than seeing it on me), but we did a first look. I'm glad we did! He was very anxious and jittery beforehand, so seeing each other helped calm him down considerably. I loved having that quiet moment together before being pulled in a million directions the rest of the day.

My FH came shopping with me when I bought it, and helped me pick my dress out, so I hope it's not bad luck!! He's also coming with me to pick up the dress when it comes in, because it's a bit of a drive to the store. Haven't thought about fittings..we're moving to a new town and don't know a lot of people, so if I want someone there, it has to be him.

Obviously he won't see me all done up until the day, which is how I want it, to still get some of that wow factor.

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I can SO relate to "when the Eagles play." lol

I don't care for the superstition and I want to spend as much time with my FW on our wedding day as we can. I also want to make sure that whatever dress I wear is one she likes on me. So she is my #1 person I wanted to go wedding dress shopping with and we're getting ready together. We'll also be walking down the isle together.

Sarah

Long Live Eagles Fans!

We don't want him to see the dress until first look time just to have a big revel, but other then that, we don't care. Seeing the dress will not mean our marriage is doomed.