Super shy FH ... No 1st dance?

No big deal at all, especially with a small intimate reception. Its your day, no point in making FH and others do things they will have knots in their stomach about all day!

Nope. people are happy to hear one less speech. I just did a very short song with my FH as he isn't a dancer. under 2 min, if you want to dance maybe make a compermise, or do a joined dance so your mom and dad dance, and his mom and dad dance at the same time as you too, taking some spotlight off but still getting a nice pic.

I think it's fine! I don't want anyone giving a speech and I would be perfectly happy doing our first dance together back at our hotel room alone. Lol seriously! My guest count very small like yours.

Just gonna toss out some options in case you were looking forward to these things and want a compromise.

For folks who *want* to say something, but are too shy/nervous/terrified to do a speech, either a note or something pre-recorded works. I've built a message for a parent into a song, or video slide shows.

The first dance doesn't have to be just the two of you. Wedding party, family, or just everyone can join, if you're having dancing. I also had a couple who was doing a video slide show, step out for the last part so they were dancing in front of pictures of themselves.

All good ideas! Thanks ladies

There's no hard and fast rule that says you have to do anything. It's your wedding! Do what you want. Start a new family tradition. We aren't doing the bouqet toss or garter either because the only guests we have coming that aren't married are my sis and bro....awkward lol! You can find out if there is someone else that might like to say a few words, a friend, a parent, or even yourself.

We're doing first dance, but not a brother sister or mother son dance. We're not doing a bouquet toss or garter toss because most of our friends are married. I get embarrassed by people gushing over me, like speeches and what not, so I would rather no one did, but oh well... they will!! I'm with kt2of3 up there!!

Neither is worth the anxiety, especially if you're okay with not having those things.

No of course you don't have to do all those things.

We aren't doing any of those things and we are leaving speeches up to those who want to say something.

I have been to plenty of weddings where anyone who wanted to speak has and a few with no first dance. I have only seen one bouquet toss and have never seen a garter toss - ever