Stock the bar wedding shower

I've heard of these (I think Gamecox had one).

Eh. I'm not a fan, but if it's ok in your circle. I see it as a fancy way of saying BYOB since they're providing the booze.

I think stock the bar is okay if it is in place of gifts.

The issue for me is whether you can have a shower when you're already married.

Having a shower when you're already married is inappropriate.

Just to be clear - this would be to stock the bar for your reception? The people invited to this shower would be providing the alcohol for the party you're hosting?

(I hope you can see that if that's the case, yes, it's tacky.)

I'm not a fan... saying "instead of a wedding shower" doesn't really make sense to me since you're already married anyway. I would skip any pre-parties since you're already married and just have a "celebration of marriage" for your reception.

Yeah i'm going to say NO on all accounts.

I view it as tacky, right up there with honeyfunds. This is just my opinion though.

Staci does bring up a interesting question on whether you can have a shower.

I'm not sure of the etiquette with having a shower if you're already married... Do you need one?

I would not do a stock the bar for a shower. Like the other girls said its a fancy BYOB. We have done that for big parties (sporting events or lawn game tournaments) but I really don't think its okay for a shower.

I'm with Emmy. I think a lot of people are going to be commenting about that behind your back. But onto the question....

I have been to weddings where the bar was stocked by a "stock the bar" party. I didn't like having to constantly switch my beverage choice since as soon as you're finished your drink they have run out of whatever it was and you have to choose a different drink. I just don't get it.

Just on the basis that there wouldn't be consistent types of alcohol available i would say no.

Having a shower when you are already married really isn't appropriate. I would never contemplate having a stock the bar shower for an actual wedding let alone a vow renewal. You're asking people to pay for part of a party you are throwing. It is tacky.

What type of gathering would be appropriate, I guess that is more my question. I realize that calling it a wedding shower is wrong. She wants to do something and a bachelorette party would definitely tacky since we are already married

Well, what's the goal? You could do a brunch or lunch, but honestly, it you're already married, you might not get as many people there as you hoped.

The problem is that these pre-wedding festivities are to celebrate upcoming nuptials. But since you're already married, what are you really celebrating?

@Anna anything would be tacky since you are already married.

I would skip the gathering all together and just have the marriage celebration you are planning. If you are having a ceremony with a BP perhaps you can host them for a thank you event.

I don't think the idea itself is tacky. When my friend had an engagement party it was a stock the bar party. They requested a bottle of wine (1 or more from everyone). They actually received a lot and used it for their wedding. In this case the circumstance is a little different since you are already married. I don't think I would call it a bridal shower. Are you guys playing bridal shower games and stuff. You could just call it a girls night out and have stock the bar as a little theme or something. I think its possible you just need to play around with it. I'm pretty open minded and from being a budget bride I know it can be tough so I have no problem with the idea but also think honeymoon funds and requesting monetary girls is also appropriate in my book where others may think its tacky.

Probably not what you want to hear, but unfortunately that's the choice you made in eloping. You forgo pre-wedding activities.

I think it's perfectly fine to do a "girls night out" or celebration lunch in honor of renewing your vows. I wouldn't call it a shower and wouldn't ask for gifts but your friends will probably bring gifts since they didn't get a chance to shower you the first time.

Also, I thought a "stock the bar" shower was for your personal, at home bar, lol. Silly me!

It's tacky.