Stock the Bar party

You shouldn't ask your guests to bring alcohol for the wedding either. Both of those ideas are incredibly tacky @rebecca

If you cannot afford things, wait and save more. Get a second job. Drive Lyft for a while. Don't ask guests to pay for your party.

Actually, our families are more than happy to help. Everyone we have mentioned it to think it's great. We've mentioned cutting the amount of people we invite, but everyone said not to exclude family so they'd all pitch in. It's a party, just like any other party we hold during the year. Everyone always brings drinks to share. Our families might be different than most in this sense though. Our guests don't mind.

We are inviting 100. I think "proper" is kinda out the window these days. We are unconventional and kinda untraditional. Weddings are about the bride and groom I think, our families also said they would like wine and beer instead of a dry reception (which we also suggested to cut cost)

I got my friend the martini glasses they registered for and put together a cute martini set with a nice locally made vodka, vermouth, olives, etc. We included a note of well wishes and advice on always having time for a date, even if it had to be at home (they have a young child and don't get out much). She ended up bringing it to the wedding and just gave it to guests. I was pretty bummed out and somewhat insulted...

Never heard of such a thing! So it's a party where people bring booze for you to use at your wedding?

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Well fuck.

I guess I can't say the word tacky.

That fucking sucks

@nicole-that is awesome!!

My maid of honor is hosting my shower and it's a coed cocktail party with a stock the bar theme. We just bought a house so it will be nice to have a new collection of wine. I don't think it's tacky at all.

@katelynn for houses, yes. But stock the bars for weddings are very tacky.

I have seen this a lot. We have chosen not to go to these parties and instead of giving cash we give a gift card somewhere. Don't ask me to pay for your wedding. It's rude and tacky. If you can't afford a wedding go to the courthouse and get married

I initially make a comment about a 4-star user having double rings as their avi being tacky.

And yes, inviting people to your party & asking them to stock your booze cabinet is also tacky.

Tacky is matter of opinion I would think. And that's absolutely fine. I know quite a few people who have done this type of thing for their wedding and we don't mind it

Etiquette is no opinion. Just because your opinion differs from standard etiquette doesn't make it a matter of opinion. It's still tacky.

Well either way, I do appreciate your concern for wedding etiquette, thats what we are doing. There are some aspects in weddings that are popular elements today that seem "tacky" to me.

@rebecca definitely agree! It's nice to come here to make sure I'm not doing anything inappropriate!

Every single "stock the bar" party I have been to is for their home and not their wedding. The host also requested to bring everything unwrapped to display on a table. It was cute and easy.

Like other PPs said I thought it was for a house warming ?

Nope. People have them for their weddings. Sadly they are generally associated with a "stag&doe" party which BP and family sell tickets too, get raffle prizes, people bring bottles of booze for wedding and all the proceeds go to the bride and groom to afford their wedding.

I don't like stock the bar parties at all and find them tacky. Stick to the traditional shower or don't have one. Most people who have these parties are throwing them for themselves. Also, I don't want to buy someone a bottle of liquor. I'd rather but a household item for a shower and give cash at a wedding.

I've never heard of Stock the Bar until now. I have heard of a Wine Voting party. My friends hosted people for a dinner party, and had some types of wines they were considering for their wedding. Everyone voted on their favorites, and that was what the couple decided to have at their bar. My friends wanted to make sure the wines appealed to a broad range of people, not just their own tastes. But, basically it was an excuse to have people over and drink wine, with a slight aspect of a wedding errand.