Step-monster is going to ruin my big day...

First off congrats! !!

Second I only have one suggestion let it go if they come they come dont worry about it you have someone now who will be there and be by your side from here on out i know its hard because its your dad but youll be better off in the long run dont let them ruin this happy time for you

You just got engaged LAST NIGHT. Don't let anyone ruin you enjoying these next few weeks. Just relax, enjoy being engaged, and let it roll right off of you. There will plenty of time for getting pissed off and stressed later.

I'm sorry she's acting this way.

one way to look at it is question if you really want this woman at your wedding.

the idea of having them there may sound great now, but if she's that selfish, could she ruin things?

I feel you pain! I have a similar step mom and in secrecy had to ask my dad to help pay for our reception so she didn't know. Anyway you can talk to him alone?

Me and my dad aren't close either. I told him me and my FH had gotten engaged and then when I was later talking about the wedding he totally forgot I had even told him and got offended that my FH hadn't asked his permission even though they have never even spoken to each other and I haven't seen my dad in almost 3 years.

Anyway don't let other people ruin it for you. Do what you want for you and they will either show up or not. I highly doubt my dad will show up although I haven't decided if I'm even gonna send him an invite yet. Concentrate on the people that you love and that will be there, and more importantly concentrate on you and you FH.

And BTW: Congrats!!

Congrats!!!!!! Don't let them ruin your excitement. Like the others have said, you will have plenty of time to get pissed later.

Congrats! As for her, tell her STFU.

Congrats! I've been through some crap with my stepmom before. We have a much better relationship now but it was a painful time for me, my dad and even her. My advice...you need to enjoy every minute of being engaged. I understand that it hurts but as everyone else has said, there's plenty more to stress about later on. Let this one go for now. As my momma says...put it on the back burner for now cuz the other stuff your cooking needs your attention lol

I second @Jay Farrell Photography...seriously, it ain't about her or her kids, it's you and your dad.

I hate my XH, but his stepmom was kinda like this, especially when it came to picking between her kids and his brother(whom she and dad raised, XH was raised by mom). Her kids and older bro were gold, XH was treated like that relative you only claim when you're in public.

Don't let anyone ruin this for y'all. Fk em ;-)

Thanks for the kind words everyone. After calling my mom sobbing about it, she basically said the same thing. It would probably be alot easier to talk to my dad seperately, but unfortunately he lives across the country and the only.way to contact him is via her phone.

That being said, I am just brushing it off for now. If they come great, if not I have a lot of other people that love and support me who will happily be there. I am super excited, we are planning the wedding for July and FH is super excited too!