Stealing my best friend's song?

I wouldn't think it would be an issue. It's not like she or her fiancee wrote it for her.

Whether it's Etta James', "At Last", or Christina Perry's, "A Thousand Years" (which was played at more weddings in 2013 than I can count), there's a reason that there are lists of the most popular songs at weddings. People tend to gravitate towards the ones that talk about eternal love, and anyone can use them. It would be a silly thing for your friend to get upset about (even if the song is more obscure). Even though I've seen many couples dancing to the same first dance song, it's always unique because each couple is unique.

Ask her-- it's been a couple of years and she may have already forgotten about it, but I also wouldn't put it past anyone to be upset by something like this.

You guys can both have the same song, there probably wont be many of the same people at her wedding if she has one and who is to say she wont change her mind about the song you re now dead set on. The song is a small detail pick and use what you want.

Thanks!

I would talk to her about it.

I know some people who would be very hurt by it and others who would care less. It's your best friend and you don't want this between you two, so it is better to talk about it first and change songs if it will be an issue.

Talk to her about it. Hopefully she will understand why you love it so much and it can be one more bond you two share as friends.

My cuzin used the song i wanted to use when she got married. I wanted to walk down the aisle with it playing. Now im using it as our dance song. I found me a better song and the song i was gonna use. Its a wedding and some of everybody used it. So what im trying to say is this.. They didnt say that two ppl cant use the same song. But u can bring it up to her. Is she engage right now?

I'd ask your friend. Sometimes this stuff is more important and personal than we realize.

I mean, what if you had a baby name in your head for ages, told your friend, and she got pregnant first and used the name? Wouldn't you feel hurt and like she stole your idea?

It might not be a big deal, or it could be very important to her. You won't know until you ask.

I would use the song, but maybe ask her to be on the safe side. I can't see this being an issue. Is she married? or engaged?

@weddingdestinationitaly No she isn't but she's in a long term relationship and is expecting it soon

I wouldn't care a whit, but that's me-- I must agree with everyone else, talk to her. But keep in mind, if you say, "Would you mind if I used this song you once said you'd like to use?" and she says, "Yes, I would mind" you'll look like a real shrew if you use it. So only ask if you are really willing to give it up if she says it will bug her.

Talk to her. When we were teenagers my (now former for unrelated reasons) best friend and I were talking baby names. I LOVED the name Evelynn to be called Evie. Neither of us were even close to having children. Fast forward 6 years and she had a "whoopsie" pregnancy and told me she was using Evelynn because she loved the nickname Evie... I was beyond pissed. She ended up having a boy and then 2 years later when my "whoopsie" baby came along it was also a boy. Basically, little things can really set people on edge. I'd talk to her.

What Zoe said. If you aren't prepared to let the song go then don't ask her permission.