Starting a Family

My fiance and I talk about this a lot recently!!! We get married this September and will have been together for 7 years. I will be 24 and he (by that time) will be 25. I want a family, but he really wants to be in a house first. We just got super good news that our apartment is now month to month so as soon as we feel ready to buy a house we are going to. So long as that is done by the end of this year, we would like to start trying by December 😊😊

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That's so exciting brie! Keep an eye out on Zillow for a good house!

I never thought I wanted kids, honestly. Too much mental illness running in my family's blood, and I didn't want to pass that on to a perfect child. But meeting my husband has me thinking, "Hey, maybe I can do this thing. Maybe I just needed a partner in crime to help me realize I am more than my mental illness."

Only problem is I am on medication that you can't be pregnant or breast feed on and this medicine literally keeps me sane, lol! I'm honestly a completely different person without it. I just moved to a new state with my husband and am getting back into the mental health system on his new insurance. I'm hoping to find a psychiatrist and therapist that I can trust, as well as an OBGYN, so I can start talking about my options when it comes to some form of safer medication.

If all goes well and there are options for me, we are hoping to begin trying in 2020. I currently have an IUD and it comes out in two years. This gives us time to figure out my medication as well as build up a proper, child-ready savings! I'll be 25 and he'll be 28.

Sorry for the small rant, lol! I just don't have a lot of friends who can relate to me on this,so maybe somebody here sees my story and can relate or has advice.

Congrats! I get it. I had my 1st lil one when l was 17! He is now 21 and just had a baby Sunday. He is so happy. Babies=happiness and joy. Go for it!

We got married the week before you and we’re waiting until our third wedding anniversary to start seriously trying, which would make us 28 and 29 at that point in time. We want some time to just be husband and wife. We’re looking forward to being DINKs for a while since I’m graduating from my master’s program in May and will finally be able to settle into my career. We are open to having kids sooner, but getting pregnant before our second wedding anniversary would be seriously unexpected and we would honestly be bummed out. We’re currently only 25 and 26 so we feel like we have plenty of time. Honestly, the older we get, the less appealing kids are haha. When we were your age, we were far more eager to have kids than we are now lol. We own a home, are college/master’s graduates, good jobs, great insurance, paid off cars so no issues on that front, minimal graduate student loans but we’re just very content to take our time alone and enjoy the heck out of it.

View Quoted Comment Omg I just got a Fitbit how and where does it tell you! I have the versa!

We have been together since we were 16.. we are now going on 33. (And just now having a wedding) but we have 4 kids... we were 20 when we had our oldest. So we have a 4, 6, 8, and 12 year old 😁

He said he wanted to wait 5 years; im thinking more like 3.

Nothing wrong with having children young if you both are ready. We are waiting until i graduate college. I'm a commuter at a local university for nursing. Were getting married in July but waiting for another 2 years for babies

We've been together 5 years and will be 24 when we get married. We are in not in a rush to have kids, ideally would like to start trying later 20s, however if it happens it happens. We are stable financially and would be able to support them. Just want to enjoy being a couple for a while 😊

Ive had my children... first at 24, second at 27 , third at 29 and my fourth at 39 ! I don't think there is a right age. As long as you are ready in your head and have love to give in your heart all will be fine....

Okay, so we already have kids, 3 daughters. My eldest is from my first marriage. I fell pregnany with her 3 months after we were married and we split when she was 2. My daughters are now 7, 3, and 9 months. My FH is the second youngest of 5 and has always dreamed of a large family. He wants 5-6 kids. I'm on board, but I need 2-3 years between each kiddo for my sanity. After I became pregnant with our youngest, he decided it was time for us to get married, move on the step-parent adoption process for my eldest, and buy a house before we have our next little bundle. So our plan is to wait roughly 3 more years before trying for baby Burch #4. I'm in no hurry, but I'd like to be done having kids by the time I'm 35. I'm currently 26 turning 27 in June and FH is 39, turning 30 in March.

We decided to try after the wedding and we were SHOCKED that I got pregnant on our honeymoon!!! I'm literally due 9 months and 1 day after the wedding 😂😂😂

I'll be 34 and Husband will be 33 when the baby arrives so we weren't getting any younger (which I pointed out to him LOL)

That's supposed to be 29 turning 30 not 39 turning 30 lol.

I don't think you have to be a certain age at all! If you and your husband are ready, go for it. So exciting! We will be getting married in October. We want to buy a house and move out by April of next year. We want to just enjoy the rest of the year in our new house + maybe travel some more before trying for a kid, so we'll probably wait until the end of 2020/start of 2021. I will be 30, FH will be 29.

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If you have the female health tracker that tells you when your period is coming it tracks on the calendar in there. I'm just hoping it's healthy and either way I'd be happy, but I think my husband is hoping for a boy.

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I have the fitbit alta hr, but on the fitbit app it has the female health tracker where it can predict/tell you when your period is coming. It says in there that you have __ blank days in your fertile period and the day you actually ovulate. if you click on the calendar it's the week in blue is the week of ovulation. Also, it has a symbol over the day you ovulate so it tells you the best day to possibly get pregnant. Good luck!

My fiancé and I are high school sweethearts. We have been together for 6 years and are 21 and 22 as well. We have talked about it before but as FutureMrsKC said is a HUGE decision to make and we definitely want to be more prepared before we start trying. Also, I don't think age should matter as long as you are prepared to have a baby. I know a lot of people in their 30s who are not financially stable or ready and know a lot of 20 year olds being great parents and stable. Congrats on your new married life and good luck!

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I love the DINK acronym! (Double Income No Kids...I heard my chiropractor use it first). We've been married a year or so and as I get older (30 next month), I also want kids less and less. I wanted kids so bad in my early 20s and then I finished college, worked, went to law school and have finally found a well-paid full-time job and am finally settling into my dream career. My husband is still finishing his Masters. He really wants kids. We also have some credit card debt and a hundred thousand in student loans, so we need to pay bills first. We'll probably start trying in late 2020 early 2021. We are also having a great time being married!

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Honeymoon Baby!!! We got married in Oct and will have a baby in July too!!! Congratulations!!! (I'm still in a bit of shock haha!)