Starting a Family

Congratulations! Nothing wrong with being young (I don't think). If you are emotionally & financially ready, age shouldn't matter. I know plenty of 32 year olds that are far less prepared to have a child than some 22 year olds I know. We are getting married in July of this year, and hope to start trying at the end of 2020! I'll be 25 when we get married and my fiance will be 29, so 26 & 30 when we start trying. We bought an older house in July 2018 so want to make sure it's family/baby ready and fixed up prior to trying! But we are both getting in better physical shape now (for the wedding & starting a family), saving money & taking pre-natal vitamins (me at least) now.

This is a fun topic!

FH and I will both be 26 when we get married in June. We’re high school sweethearts and have been together for 11 years, so we’re definitely anxious to start a family!

We’re planning to start trying relatively soon after the wedding. After the honeymoon, I’m going to talk with my OB/GYN about coming off of birth control and starting any other pre-conception lifestyle changes We’re thinking that will put us around August or so to actively start trying!

We get married in 22 days, we've been together for 3 years and are 24 and 26.

We already own a home, have great jobs, our 401K set up, etc. All of the adult things we wanted to cross off of our list, lol!

We both agreed that while we are ready to start a family, and we'd absolutely love to have a little one, we are still young and are definitely in no rush. Adding another life to this world is a HUGE decision, and one we don't want to take lightly. We want to make sure we are as prepared financially as possible. My parents struggled financially when I was a kid and I'd rather not be in that situation as an adult.

We agreed we'd take 2019 to do some house projects we put off because of wedding planning, go on a few trips we've been dying to take just the two of us, and then in 2020 seriously have baby talk.

Of course things change and who knows what will happen in the future, but that's our rough goal/estimate for now!

I'll be going to the OBGYN for my yearly visit in the spring sometime, and I'll probably bring it up and start that conversation with her just in case we do decide to try before my 2020 visit!

We're going to start trying asap. We're not getting any younger. I'm 28 and FH is 32 so we would like to get going on the family! We want 3 or 4 kids too so....clocks a ticking!

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We bought a house in July 2018 as well! I'm starting Nutrisystem tomorrow to help shred some pounds before I get pregnant. We want to save a little more money before as well. Good luck !!

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I guess I need to talk with my OB/GYN too? How soon should I talk with them?

Yay congratulations! I will be 26 and FH will be 29. Hopefully we will be starting the adoption process in about 7 years. Goal is to buy a house first and wait 3 years until we adopt

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Sounds to me like you have all your ducks in a row! Congrats and good luck!

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Heck yeah! I want three, he wants two. So maybe, just maybe, I have one, and then twins hahah!

We will be holding off. We still are not sure kids are in our future. Been together 5 years, have a house, got married this past April. We're both hitting mid 30's. But we really want to travel and just be together right now.

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Oh my word! That's so exciting ! I would love to adopt. My mom used to talk about fostering, I've thought about talking with my husband bout fostering. However, I could see myself falling in love with every child that walks through my door and end up driving a school bus because I would keep them all! haha

View Quoted Comment I think that’s up to you! I take BC for more reasons than just contraception so I need to talk to her to make sure I don’t screw anything up by stopping the medication. But also I’m sure she has some general medical advice on trying to conceive.

I'll be 32 and FH 34 when we get married in May. We're waiting until Dec/Jan bc we want at least 6 months of "us" before we start adding to the family. We want 2-3 so the next few years are going to be hectic (hopefully)

I'll be barely 23 (birthday a week before) and my FH will be 27 when we get married! I wanted to wait 1 year and my FH wanted to wait 2 years so we decided to start trying after a year and a half haha! We want 4 kids though so don't want to wait too long!

This is probably the biggest topic of conversation for us right now, aside from wedding planning of course. We're a same sex couple so it's going to take a lot more planning than it does for most. Not only are babies expensive in general, but it will be extremely expensive for us to even conceive. We get married in November and will likely honeymoon in Mexico, I'm super paranoid about Zika so we need to wait a couple of months before we start TTC, plus we just want to enjoy a few months of married time before we welcome a little one. We will hopefully start the process around May of 2020, but who really knows if/when we will actually get pregnant. Both of us will be 28 at that time.

I'm 27 (almost 28) and my fiance is 36. We don't plan on having any biological children, but we may foster or adopt in the future. We aren't ready to put any kind of timeline on it due to our own medical issues and still getting our lives sorted out. We want to focus on getting a house.

We’re 22 and 24 so pretty young too (wedding is in 5 months, a month before his 25th birthday)... we agreed to start discussing when I turn 24 and definitely want to have our first kid before he turns 30. I've always wanted to have kids relatively young, but want to make sure we are set financially (and emotionally) first, so I think I'll want to be at least 25 when I become a mom!

Will likely be aiming for ****, which will be 2-4 years into our marriage, 5-7 years into our relationship

We will be 29 and 35 and I think we’ll start trying soon. We’ve lived together for two years and have stable incomes.

We’re both 25 (me-26 in Feb, him- 26 in June, wedding-July). We have an almost 3 year old (in March) so that’s a bigger deciding factor than wedding stuff. SHES WILD Lol

This is currently a hot discussion! We’re 27 and will be the same age at the wedding in August. FH wanted to wait until 30 to start trying but I’ve convinced him to push that deadline up to nearly right after the wedding! Idk if I’m more excited about the wedding or starting a family!