Stanley Cup VS Wedding

I understand ur dilemma and nobody wants to be the bad guy. My FH wanted to go to on a boys trip to Miami, which would've cut deep into our budget. I said to him, you can hang out with the guys or you can have a wedding. We only get one weddimg guys' trips can happen anytime!

Are any of the players from near you? They bring the Cup home and will have HUGE parties.

Stay in NJ and take the bus over. Drops you off at Port Authority and is like $6/round trip. If you have Porter Airlines look there, FH and I have gotten round trip Toronto for $600 total

Have you ever been to a big parade, or any parade in NYC? It's impossible to see anything. I get the exciting atmosphere of being in the city when a team wins but I think victory parades are better on TV. They are NOT worth $700-1000 trip when you are playing financial catch up months before your wedding.

Yes Shepherd is from Halifax (where we live), and I made that point to him. He has some childhood fantasy in his head about it I think. Who knows, maybe in a few hours this will no longer be an issue (although I do hope they win).

Problem solved! Sorry as a Canucks fan I can't help but be happy the Rangers are out! #StillBitterAbout94

Lol they didn't win so you're good! FH is a huge Ranger fan too, literally got the worst attitude tonight after they lost. If we didn't live in NY, FH probably would of wanted something similar and not think about the logistics, don't take it to heart and know you have nothing to fear (other than the non-avoidable "they lost" tude) Good luck!

I dragged FH (huge Lightning fan) to a concert we bought tickets to months ago last night... He is still not happy with me for missing the game this morning. Oops.

I just saw the score, from last night's game = problem solved!

I'm glad you won't have this problem anymore, but I'm actually sad the Rangers lost. Now I'll have to root for Tampa Bay in the finals

GO BOLTS!

As a Canuck fan, I was cheering pretty hard for Alain Vingeault and the Rangers to win the Cup (once the Canucks were out...and then the rest of the Canadian teams were out...but still!). Especially since they got so close last year. I hope the Ducks get out tonight...

Sorry, I was hoping for an Original 6 meeting.

I hope my Hawks fare better tonight!

I definitely would not stay in NJ or Brooklyn. Stay in Astoria. It's 10 minutes outside the city and a $2.75 subway ride into the city. Hotels are cheaper and subways are more reliable going in from queens. It is irresponsible of him to want to go when you have a wedding to pay for but I doubt he will change his mind so I would just research your options and find the cheapest place to stay.

Eta: just saw the post that they aren't playing anymore so never mind lol

Wow, I'm sorry but that's just plain awful. Even if you weren't getting married around the same time I would say that one is a sit down and discuss it kind of thing. My FH and I have a deal where if either of us want to spend more than $50 (unless it's something like food or another necessity) we talk it over first and only do it if we both agree (or like sometimes I will buy something because I can't talk to him at that point but know that we we talk later and it may end up returned). When money is tight some things just plain aren't options no matter how amazing they may be. It isn't fair of him to ask you to sacrifice even more of your wedding, a once in a lifetime, for a sporting event. I know those are very important to die hard fans (my mother is one so I get it) but still. He can watch it on TV. He can have a house party with his friends to celebrate. Spending that kind of money to go to a quick parade just isn't fair right now especially when you consider that after the wedding it will make things even tougher. I'd say the thing to do is start thinking about the next time this kind of opportunity may come up and perhaps start saving a bit at a time for then so you can go for it then.

Wouldn't it be fair to say this is more like 'your fantasy' vs. 'his fantasy' than 'our wedding' vs. 'his fantasy'? I doubt your FH has been dreaming about his wedding for years-- he has been looking forward to this parade (or his team winning, at least). One way to approach this is to say, "I don't care to go, but feel free to go yourself. I'd like your help to know where we can take the $100 out of our budget." If you can say it in a friendly, inviting way. OR say, "Honey, I see how much this means to you-- we'll make it work." If you can get to that point. Saying, "My fantasy trumps your fantasy, and everyone on WW agrees with me!" seems selfish, yes.

Well it doesn't matter anymore