Stanley Cup VS Wedding

@Janeen I agree, I'm trying to figure out a way to relay that to FH without him ranting about his Fandom.

With two Game 7s @Melissa you're right, it's 25% chance. But I do worry about things I shouldn't all of the time lol.

I don't know about this one. The Phillies won the world series in 08 and to this day I regret not going to the parade. I went to class instead because I had a test or paper or something, but no one showed up and the teacher excused them (WTF!).

But I also come from a die hard sports city and I find it odd when people's allegiances fall outside of the city they were born and raised in so I can't imagine having to travel and spend so much money for it.

We're in Nova Scotia, so we don't have any major sports teams :\ We all cling to a hockey team as soon as we're old enough to understand the game and stick with them lol (my poor brother is a Leafs fan, he hates it but can't let go).

I don't want him to be mad or regret not going, but I don't want to be mad and regret going for an underwhelming expensive afternoon.

I should also mention how superstitious he is. Our dog wears a Central Park bandana that we bought for him last year during playoffs. Yesterday it ripped down the centre, and FH nearly had a panic attack saying it was a sign.

I swear he's a reasonable person, die hard sports fans are kind of like the Hulk lol

No, you are not being selfish by trying to put your foot down on this -- you're being an adult. Playing financial catch-up is hard enough when you're just covering the necessities of life, and it can take a while before you finally feel like you can breathe a little. In your situation, deducting a significant amount for discretionary spending would be irresponsible. Stick to your guns.

Ehhhhhhhj- I get it. I really do. But honestly parades in NYC are a HUGE pain in the ass.

Darling Lover works in NYC- we both live in NJ- and neither of us will EVER go a parade there- it's just to much of a pita.

If he wants to go alone with his money fine but you'll be miserable- you're going to be cranky driving all the way down there and you're going to be cranky waiting on the streets- you're going to be cranky paying 5$ for a cup of coffee.- cranky and resentful.

Unless you're IN the parade- it's much better to watch on TV.

Yeah I have some pretty big sports allegiances, but even I know when enough is enough. It's one thing to be miserable at a parade in your own city. It's completely different when you have to drop $1,000 (that you don't have free) to get there.

This may be bitchy, but I would just sweetly ask him how he's planning on paying for the trip next time he brings it up. If he mentions the money you have in savings that's already dedicated to the wedding, tell him no--that you already have paid deposits and have plans for that money. Trust me, one month out from the wedding is when you start paying off vendors and buying all the last minute things. You will NOT have an extra $1,000 to throw around. I think it's perfectly reasonable to tell him that he has to find his own way of paying for it. That way you're not "forbidding" him from going. You're just being an adult about your finances.

The NY Rangers have won 2 cups in 70 some years....and don't think they'll win this year, I'm predicting Anaheim will

Don't say anything to him until they are heading into game 7 of the finals. And even then just keep your mouth shut about it. If, and that's a big if, they win....you can try to reason with him. But if it were my team, I'd likely be really, really pissed off of FH put his foot down and wouldn't let me go. You can suggest he go with a buddy and split the cost, but I wouldn't tell him "you can't go". And you certainly don't want a major fight on your hands a month before your wedding.

I feel your pain... my FH is also a HUGE Rangers fan. The playoffs have been frustrating enough for me this year as he's planted in front of the tv while I am unpacking (we just moved) and organizing our invitation for assembly (printing envelopes, numbering rsvp cards, ect). I am a Flyers fan so I don't feel bad rooting for them to lose every game. Go Hawks! But in the event they do win... I don't know if you can tell him he can't go... I mean it could be years before they win again. I wouldn't stay anwhere in the city... try westchester, rockland or orange counties and take the train in... or see if he can find someone else to go with (groomsmen- part of the bachlor party) so they cover half the cost instead of you.

Just no. NYC with parades of any sort is a giant, expensive PITA, and I love NYC. Watch in on TV; it'll be a much better and cheaper experience.

@Kelsey: I totally get you. FH would have us go to the end of the world to see a parade for his team. Unfortunately his team are the Winnipeg Jets and I don't foresee us going anywhere lol (go Jets go!).

If he's dead set on going to New York, there's a few things you could do to save cost: check the seat sales (don't know who flies out of Nova Scotia but WestJet has a seat sale every Thursday, and Air Canada has a sale going on right now), and flighs.com has last minute deals on flights. For stay you could try AirBnB, at least that way you can cook in the apartment and you'll save some money on food (and hopefully on lodging too). And well, you can always drive down, but you would have to take time off work.

If they make it to the finals (and the ducks do too) I hope the Rangers win!

@becomingmcclain I think that's solid advice. If it gets to that point, maybe I can send him with his friends or something. He says he'll work extra overtime to cover the trip (but then I want him to work more OT for the wedding lol).

I agree @Celia, I feel better. I was worried maybe I was being the bain of sports fandom.

@Kelsey, throw a Stanley Cup party instead and watch the parade home.

They still have to beat the Tampa Bay Lighting tonight....says the girl that went to the 7/3 Ranger/Bolt game.

They still have to beat the Lightning and then Hawks or Ducks...as much as it pains me I think the Ducks are going to take it this year. But I'd love to see an upset and have the Lightning take it all. Either way this year sucked. Go Canucks! hahaha ugh being a Vancouver fan is hard on the heart.

Hmm well first off I hope anyone but the rangers win. But second off yeah, definitely not worth it. I live in Boston and am stuck here in the parades, I do not go outside our in the city on those days. Even if you did get a good spot you see the cup for like 2 seconds and mostly it's the back of people's heads.

You Only Live Once!

Stay in NJ and drive? It's cheaper! We are planning to go too if the Blackhawks win!

I agree with the other posters regarding the parade not really being all it's cracked up to be. Plus, the hotel rates that weekend would skyrocket. IF they somehow pull off winning, the Cup travels the entire summer, and many charities hold fundraisers where you get to actually go up to the Cup and, *gasp*, touch it and get your picture taken with it! There may even be one in Canada, since so many players are Canadian. Some of these events would occur after your wedding, so maybe the compromise would be to go to one of these instead. Pros: Cheaper, more time to save $, and best chance to actually see the Cup.

ETA: This is me and my FH at one of these events in 2013.