Spouse seating

We are having a sweetheart table just him & I. I will have one table with the groomsmen & bridesmaid. Two of my bridesmaids are sisters & have their own family so i am sitting them in a family table. I want them to feel comfortable. However it is your wedding and you can do what you'd like even if most dont agree. If the they are ok with it & still want to participate then it's fine. If they dont like it then they dont have to be part of the bridal party. Do you girl!

I’ve been to a bunch of weddings where the bride and groom have their own sweetheart table and the groomsmen and bridesmaids would sit separately and together with their spouses. I was planning to do the same for my wedding party just because I find it a bit awkward if their spouses sit by themselves especially if they don’t know anyone else.

View Quoted Comment That last part!!!

Oh, I’m using a head table with the 👰🤵in the center. Guys to the 🤵’s left and the Ladies to my right.

So, no one is sitting with anyone.

I will have them exit during the Processional as they entered.

I don’t want anyone’s Wife to be feeling some type of way because he’s “with a younger Woman”.

View Quoted Comment I’ve been in weddings with a head table as opposed to a sweetheart table and I always felt uncomfortable because my date was stuck with whoever, alone not knowing people, while I was at the head table. We’re having a sweetheart table as to avoid this situation.

View Quoted Comment At first it was 45 minutes. Now it’s 30. I’m pretty sure I have never been to a wedding where dinner was less than two hours. And I am pretty sure you stated that you’re having 200 guests, so it’s going to be on the longer side.

View Quoted Comment Of course nobody complains to the couple, that would be rude!! Instead the spouses who have to sit awkwardly with strangers complain or roll their eyes privately and to each other. 😁

Personally, I think it is kind of rude to separate spouses (makes it less enjoyable for the guests) so we decided on a bigger head table where the couples get to sit together. But it depends on your reception layout and how big your bridal party is and if you want them all at the same table of course

Yes!! That’s very wrong. You cannot separate spouses. What’s the point being at a wedding together? I have been a bridesmaids 6 times since I have been with S/O and we sat together. Same as when he was a grooms man. At my wedding, wedding spouses would all be sitting at with their significant.

We're only having a best man and maid of honkr so we're just gonna put their person next to them. If we had more in the party we were thinking of having a sweetheart table and putting the wedding party and their people at a table next to us.

Unless they know and are comfortable with other people invited to the wedding, they should be with their person

We are doing a sweetheart table.

I believe traditionally you have it correct-the bridal party sits at the head table only and spouses sit with the rest of guests.

Being on both sides, it is a little awkward when you’re away from your SO, but honestly that’s tradition and something I put up with as expected. You could seat spouses with any mutual friends or in the same age group, that would help. Even setting that table close to the head table helped me as I looked at my SO longingly at the head table lol!!

View Quoted Comment We are choosing to do two large estate tables where the wedding party will sit WITH their special guest. Their table is clearly special but they won’t feel alone either.

I would put couples together, even I one is in the bridal party and the other isnt. You want everyone to be comfortable. Also, what if the two of them want to hangout with each other at the wedding? Where would they sit to talk? At the head table where shes not welcome, or at a regular guest's table where he takes up someone else's seat?

View Quoted Comment Ok and I’ve never been to a wedding where dinner was longer than an hour, i know mine won’t be longer than 45 mins different strokes for different folks

View Quoted Comment Now that I’ve learned of this new way of table seating, i have made a few arrangements

View Quoted Comment Lol thank you for understanding both sides instead of being dramatic like most replies and replying rudely, i have now made adjustments

We don't want a sweetheart table..so the maid of honor and her fiance and the best man an his wife will be sitting with us. The rest of the party will be sprinkled in with guests.

FH and I will have our own sweetheart table but I’m going to have bridal party tables. 1 table for the bridesmaid and their dates and another table for the groomsmen and their dates. Both tables will be near our sweetheart table. Then we’ll have table for the immediate family and so on.