Spouse seating

View Quoted Comment They wouldn’t sitting alone, they’re sitting with other guests and other people of the wedding party. I would’ve set them together but I’ve never seen this at a wedding. So i was going with what i know. I know my guests aren’t props, I’m from the south my mother raised me well. Thank you

View Quoted Comment Wow. I’m doing a seating chart because i have 200 guests and don’t want families to have to separate, but i put my seating chart together just to make sure family rivals aren’t sitting together. Glad you made friends at the wedding! If i don’t rearrange my head table hopefully everyone else can be adults and do the same. It’s one day, they will live

View Quoted Comment Lol right some pole act like they’ll die if something doesn’t go their way for 45 mins. The seating arrangement is for dinner after that guests can get up do as they please, people kill me

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If you're okay with guests rearranging themselves then go for it! Arranged seating is fine when attending weddings with my family, but gets really uncomfortable when I only know one or two people there and I'm not seated with them.

If it's about order and keeping the peace then I totally agree. At least your wedding parties SOs should be comfortable even if they aren't having dinner with them.

View Quoted Comment Im not benefiting at all from putting my “wedding party on display” while they sit maybe 30 mins away from their SO. I’ve never been to a wedding where the significant other sat at the wedding party table. And their guest wouldn’t sit alone they will sit with other guests, I’ve already made my seating chart before i learned of this new generation of seating. If don’t choose to change it, they will live. It is only for dinner. People are adults and can make friends.

View Quoted Comment Exactly and i will make sure everyone is comfortable

I always found weddings where I was separated from my husband and sat with a bunch of strangers miserable.

Maybe if everyone is super close this wont be an issue but why do you need a wedding party sitting with you? I get having them stand with you for the ceremony but it just never made sense to have their significant other seated away from them.

I seated everyone with their significant others. My entire bridal party was in some sort of a relationship. We had a sweetheart table for my husband and I, a bridesmaids and their SO table and groomsmen and their SO table.

We are doing a sweetheart table. I was never going to have a bridal party only table. I thought about doing a kings table, but scratched that idea. I then thought about a table w/ just the MOH, her wife, the best man & his wife - but my MOH wanted to sit w/ her mom & daughter - so we opted for the traditional sweetheart table.

View Quoted Comment I was just doing what I’ve always known. I didn’t know ppl made a big deal about sitting with their SO if they’re in the wedding. I’ve never been to a wedding like this. Now that i know, i May make some alterations. All of my wedding are sitting with the spouses and family.

View Quoted Comment But don’t you want your guests to enjoy themselves? I would be mad and upset if I couldn’t sit with my spouse...that’s just weird.

Wow so many judgemental ppl on here and so many rude comments. Everyone does things differently.
I've never been to a wedding with a sweetheart table before. My last wedding, we did a head table. The girls sat on my side, the guys sat on his. No one complained or thought it was weird. We even had couples in our wedding party and they sat apart bc of the way the table was. Again, no complaints. After everyone ate, we got up, sat where ever, talked to ppl, and danced so it didn't matter that our best friends were sitting with us and not whoever they wanted.
This time I'm doing the sweetheart table. The few quiet moments we can have while we're eating sounds nice.
Either way, go with what *you* want for *your* wedding.

View Quoted Comment Honey thank you someone who finally gets it! It’s not that serious they’re acting like they’re going days without their spouse, it’s a 30 minute dinner, after that they can move and go as they please. Thank you for understanding

View Quoted Comment No i wouldn’t get mad, not everyone has bad intentions. Sometimes you have to be an adult and understand the situation. The seating situation is only for a 30 min dinner then guests can move and go as they please. You’re putting way too much thought into it. Everyone doesn’t do their wedding the same way.

View Quoted Comment So you’d really sit around with you lip poked out just because you couldn’t sit with your spouse for 30 mins?! You have to realize things aren’t always about you.

View Quoted Comment Um no, I actually wouldn’t attend....read the replies and consider what people are telling you. This is 2019.

View Quoted Comment I read all of the comments, did you read my responses? All of the weddings I’ve been to had this type of seating. I also said that i would now consider this new seating style. You can stay home mad, its 2019, the party goes on without you.

View Quoted Comment Lolllllll 😂

I’ll be honest and say I’ve never heard of a head table (or king’s table) until I came to WW. The only weddings I’ve ever been to (US West Coast) have had sweetheart tables and then the bridal party at tables mingled with the other guests (I’ve seen both tables solely made up of wedding party and their dates and tables in which the wedding party and dates were sitting with other guests with whom they had close relationships (family, friends, etc.). While I know I’d survive if I were separated from FH for dinner, I’d truly be miserable. I hate small talk; it exhausts me to go through the motions with someone I will most likely never talk to again (and let’s be honest, it’s exhausting even with my good friends!). I’ll do it, but I’ll be counting down the minutes until I’m no longer stuck. By the looks of your responses, it seems as if you’re thinking through another plan, but just try to remember that while adults will often suck it up, it doesn’t always make for a pleasant, comfortable experience for everyone.

We are doing a kings table. Everyone will be with their so/family.

I agree it's your wedding and your choice. I
try to make people comfortable and enjoy
themselves. I don't care if they like my choices of my dress or music even food choices. I was a bridesmaid sitting at bridal party table, I would preferred sitting with my family or friends. I felt alone because everyone else
were related.
Can you not redo table seating? I've truly
changed mines.