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Aleaj
Expert October 2019

Spouse seating

Aleaj, on September 6, 2019 at 10:04 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 1 208
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So one of my FH groomsmen asked if him & his wife who isn't in the wedding, would be sitting together at the wedding. I told him no because he would be sitting at the wedding party table & then i would have to rearrange my entire seating chart. Where did everyone sit their bridesmaids or groomsmen spouses? Am i wrong?!

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Latest activity by Mandi, on November 19, 2019 at 12:06 AM
  • Ivy ORP
    VIP October 2019
    Ivy ORP ·
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    I have been to weddings where the wedding party is seated away from their significant others and it was often awkward, especially if the wedding party didn't really know each other. But the weddings I have been to where the wedding party is allowed to sit their significant others has always felt more comfortable to me. I would hate to have to sit apart from my FW at a celebration of any kind. I didn't think people did the wedding party only seating anymore to be honest.

  • Jasmine
    Rockstar February 2021
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    FH and I will be getting a sweetheart table because anyone in our party who is in any kind of relationship, I'm sure, would want to sit with them. I think it would be kind of weird especially if their significant other doesn't know anyone else at the wedding.

  • Laura
    Master October 2019
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    I see more of the bridal party sitting with their significant others and/or family now than at a traditional head table. I wouldn't say you're wrong, it's your wedding, and if that's what you want you should do it. We're doing a sweetheart table so our attendants can be with their families and SO's

  • Aleaj
    Expert October 2019
    Aleaj ·
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    So where would the wedding party sit? With everyone else? I think that’s weird
  • C
    Master January 2019
    Cassidy ·
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    We had a sweetheart table where me and my husband sat. Bridal party sat at tables with everyone else.
  • Amanda
    VIP December 2020
    Amanda ·
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    We are hosting a “King’s Table” our bridal party member will sit across from their date. FH and I will sit next to each other with my MOH and BM on our sides and their dates across from them, then on to BM’s and GM’s with their dates across from them. No one will be across from FH and myself.
  • Destiny
    VIP May 2020
    Destiny ·
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    We're not doing bm or gm we're doing a sweetheart table with a u shaped seating plan
  • Ivy ORP
    VIP October 2019
    Ivy ORP ·
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    Are you doing a sweetheart table? Then put them at their own tables with significant others, like bride's side and groom's side. It is your wedding and you can do what you want but I was offering my opinion based on observation. I saw this back in my early years but not anymore.

  • Keri
    Expert November 2019
    Keri ·
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    That's why many choose a sweetheart table. People want to sit next to their significant other, plus it gives you a little alone time with your new spouse at dinner!
  • Aleaj
    Expert October 2019
    Aleaj ·
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    I would’ve done that, but I’ve already arranged my seating chart, and i never heard of the bridal party being scattered around . I wouldn’t expect to sit with my husband if he was in a wedding and i wasn’t.
  • Aleaj
    Expert October 2019
    Aleaj ·
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    Yes the sweetheart table is for you and your spouse, I’m having a sweetheart table. When people have a sweetheart table, the wedding party sits wherever?
  • Aleaj
    Expert October 2019
    Aleaj ·
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    Ok thank you!
  • Rebecca
    Devoted June 2021
    Rebecca ·
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    If you were to do a sweetheart table, I would assume you would end up needing to add a regular table for the bridal party. You could just put the bridal party and their SO’s at that table, keeping it “separate,” but not separating couples.
  • Aleaj
    Expert October 2019
    Aleaj ·
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    Where will you wedding party sit, with the other guest?
  • Keri
    Expert November 2019
    Keri ·
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    Yep with their significant other/family/friends.
  • Yam
    VIP September 2019
    Yam ·
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    I’d put couples together especially if they didn’t know most of the guests. You want everyone to be comfortable, not sitting by themselves.
  • R
    Super September 2018
    Rachel ·
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    We sat our wedding party with their significant others. So we had a bridemaid (and SOs) and groomsmen (and SOs) tables. I most recently went a destination wedding (traveled out of country) where my husband sat at a wedding party table in the front and the other wives and I sat all the way in the very back of the dining area. 🙄
  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
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    I haven’t been to a wedding with a traditional head table in years. I think people are starting to understand that it’s important to treat your wedding party well, they are your closest friends after all. They deserve to sit with their dates/spouses/families. We will have a sweetheart table and our wedding party will be sitting with their significant others.
  • M
    VIP September 2019
    Mrs. Bubba ·
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    I sat spouses that are not participating at a table together so that they’ll have someone to talk to.
  • Aleaj
    Expert October 2019
    Aleaj ·
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    Just because you’re wedding party isn’t sitting with their family, doesn’t mean they’re not being treated well. Sometimes things can’t always go people’s way, especially when they’re getting fed and drinks for free. I thought it was the couples wedding, not the wedding parties wedding

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