Spinoff - Receiving a Wedding Announcement

I mean i might if i got one, i would probably only send like $20 bucks if it was a friend/ depending on how close i was to them.

i dont think that you need to send a gift though at that point.

I would at least send a card. Maybe a gift if you feel so inclined.

A wedding announcement saying that they eloped? Or did they have an actual reception and just didn't invite you?

Well damn...i hope I don't get a wedding announcement for someone who had a wedding and didn't invite me. Lol. And do people really send announcements after they had the whole ceremony and reception? I guess I am talking about someone who eloped. But now I'm really intrigued.

Its an older tradition...mainly just to let extended family and friends know of the wedding. I've never received one but I don't think they are sent with the expectation of gift/cards being sent.

Yeah. I think I'd treat it like a change of address card. Or a baby announcement. If you really love them you can send them something, but I usually just toss those things and forget about them

I think a wedding announcement is just that... an announcement. I don't think a gift would be required.

Maybe a card. I most likely wouldn't send a gift but I don't know of anyone who even does this anymore.

I would probably send a card but I have never gotten one. I have gotten baby announcements and not felt the need to send anything to them. Now I'm thinking that I probably should've sent a card or something.

If I loved them and knew they had a very limited guest list for the wedding (or eloped) I'd send a gift. If not, I'd shred it and not look back.

Celia I love your responses!

I would send a gift card in a card if I was close to the couple. Its not an expectation of a gift its just so the next time you see that at the Thanksgiving dinner you aren't all "What you got married? When? No one told us." Kind of like the time my third cousin who lives out of state came to Christmas with a baby (this was before everyone was on social media).... everyone was all what.... why did you keep the baby a secret??? And her dad was dead and her mom was never really in the family (not married to the dad) so no one told us.

ETA: at the church I grew up in whenever a couple eloped or had a small wedding the pastor would announce after they married that they were married and dozens of people would walk over and give them cash (nothing major just whatever they had in there purse of wallet at the time)

I'd call/text/whatever them and congratulate them.

Dear God, are we really expected to send a gift when people tell you they got married through a piece of mail?

I guess in my mind, I wouldn't send an announcement to anyone I wasn't close to or to whom I would not have invited to the wedding, supposing I had had one. Again, I was just wondering...

I've actually been turning over whether to do this for my estranged family or not. They're not invited, I'm just wondering if I have to let them know "hey I'm married now" after the fact. (Normally I know the answer would be "no", but I won't be receiving the balance of my inheritance from my late father's estate for another... 2 years after the wedding, so that's a practical matter that means I can't *completely* cut contact, just mostly.)

Announcements are sent after a marriage has taken place. You do not send announcements to those who were invited to the wedding as they obviously are already aware. It is meant to let people, who were not invited to the wedding know of your marriage. People you haven't seen in years but still like to keep generally in touch with and update. Especially for the bride who has taken on a new name. Of course, in modern times, that's what Facebook does.

A gift is not expected....it's just an announcement. Sometimes it's done in the newspaper.

When I got married, I had a very small wedding, with a reception at a restaurant, there were only 25 people there, I have a large family and couldn't invite them all, so we sent you announcement cards to extended family NOT expecting gifts, and while we did receive a couple, it was just that an ANNOUNCEMENT not a push for gifts. So personally I wouldn't send a gift, maybe a nice card.

We will send out wedding announcements to family and friends after our elopement. We absolutely do not expect anyone to give us gifts.