Sooo I'm not a huge fan of my ring

Tell him the truth. Exchange it. His feelings may be a little hurt at first but that's better than disliking your ring for the rest of your life.

If you don't like it and can't get over it, I think the only thing to do is tell him.

Im with FH long enough to not worry about hurting his feelings. he would rather me tell him if i didnt like it

I'm not the kind of woman who cares about rings, etc. He could have proposed to me without a ring and I would have been happy cause for me the ring is just that...a ring. My ring is small yet cute and I love that he decided to purchase it. Pray that your marriage is all you ever want and need. Don't worry about the ring girl, that's what he wanted for his woman and I'm sure he's proud of himself. Maybe at a 5 or 10 year anniversary you can upgrade as many ppl do.

I was in a similar situation, however my FI KNEW I wouldn't like the ring he proposed with, he told me we could reset it. He proposed January 2012 and we just reset it this passed weekend! All I can really say is be honest with him, ask him what made him choose the ring he did. Perhaps his answer will surprise you and possibly change your mind about the ring.

Hm... I don't think I'd mention it, honestly, because I wouldn't want to hurt FI. Think about it. He went to so much trouble to choose something that he thought you would like, that he also happens to like. If I were a fiance and heard from my fiancee that she hated the ring I chose, I'd be heartbroken.

I'd rather have a ring I don't like, and a happy fiance. It's up to you, though.

Meanwhile, my fiance says that he would be disappointed in this situation, but ultimately, he would do what makes me happy. That right there makes me feel like I wouldn't want to do it. Again, though, it's your decision.

I'd say wear it for a while longer - maybe another 2-3 months. 4 months is still early in the engagement. If then you can think about telling him.

My ring was nothing like I hoped it would be, but he was so proud of his intention (he had it designed specially), that I love it for that very reason. It's a bit big for me, and kind of flashy, but I'm used to it and can't imagine not wearing it.

My ring was not what I was ever expecting, but I fell in love with it. The fact my FH put in months of searching for the right ring he felt was perfect for me means so much! He's already talking about buying me a new ring and bigger ring for our vow renewal some day.

Asked my fiancé about this. He was very adimant about not saying anything and "learning to love" the ring. He went on to say there was no way you could bring it up to him without hurting his feelings. He actually got pretty worked up about it!

Not saying I agree 100%, just giving one recently engaged guy's opinion.

Personally I have had second thoughts about mine, wondering if he picked the right one (I gave him 2 designs I liked and let him pick). In the end, I think if I had asked to change it for another it would never be as special because it wasn't the one he picked. I love my ring because he chose it.

In the end you know your relationship better than any of us. Good luck!

I too picked out a lot of different styles for my engagement ring. In the end, the ring he picked was different than any of the styles I showed him. He was very nervous if I was going to like the ring. By him saying that to me, I felt nervous! In the end, I love the ring. It wasn't my choice, but I know he was proud to purchase it for me and he did a good job. I actually get a lot of compliments on my ring.

I will say a couple of my friends stopped wearing their engagement rings after they got married, so perhaps that is an option for you. Good luck!

You don't want to hurt FH's feelings so like said before "learn to love it." There are more important things to worry about than a ring you don't like. Yes you'll have to look at it everyday but you'll also have to look at FH everyday as well, would you rather see a ring you want on your finger or would you want to see FH happy because he picked this one out for you? I'm just saying.

If it bothers you that much than tell FH the truth.

Enjoy the engagement ring he bought for you. My FH went on and on about how hard it is for a guy to decide he is ready for marriage and that you are the one. For a guy to buy the engagement ring on his own in hopes of surprising you... Any way you slice it, you are going to hurt his feelings by telling him you dont like his choice of ring he picked out for you. From a guys perspective, I would not want to hear that.

You can provide input on the wedding band.

I agree don't say anything. It' not worth the drama and hurting his feelings, accept that there's a reason he picked what he did and remember that he picked it out of love for you everytime you look at it and that should make it grow on you Honestly you can always upgrade it later as previously mentioned.

Be grateful some women don't get a RING! It's from a MAN that you LOVE!!!

Think about it !

I think it depends on your FH & how he generally feels about things. Lots of guys after putting so much thought & effort into what to pick out would be hurt. But not all guys are like that. My FH for example insisted that I tell him what styles I liked. When I asked what he liked he said it didn't matter bc I was the one who was wearing it forever not him. If I didn't like it (& it was a style, not a price factor) but continued to wear it he'd get mad at me for not being honest bc the point is for me to be happy with it. My sister's FH on the other hand spent months researching & stalking her computer & contacting a jeweler & having it made so I'm sure if she didn't like it he'd be crushed bc he put so much thought & effort. It really boils down to your FH. If you think he is more like my sisters FH then wait a few years & see if you can change it for an anniversary.

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Can you find a wedding band to make it more your style? For example my wedding band is an enhancer that completely changes the look and style

(For the record, I LOVE my engagement ring on its own. But I am so excited for my wedding band I can't even tell you. FH did gooooood)

I just asked my FH what I should do if I was in the same boat, he said, "You shouldn't say anything. But, maybe you could go with him to pick out bands and figure out a way to improve it. A lot of time and thought typically goes into picking (the ring) out and he could be really hurt."

Just trying to throw a man's perspective in there.

I don't know, i think you should say something to him. i told my DH exactly what i wanted. i've always imagined my engagement ring a certain way and i made sure he knew what that looked like. had he gone out and picked something totally different, i would have been hurt and felt like he didn't know me or listen to me.

I think you should be honest with FH. Have a conversation about it. Maybe you can upgrade after a few years. I am in this same situation and DH and I talked and agreed to upgrade for our 1st anniversary.

No matter how you put it, he will have his feelings hurt.

If you must, you could say you find it uncomfortable and want to just change the setting but keep the diamond- because it represents him, what he picked out and diamonds are forever or whatever.

Most of my friends sport their wedding band 90% of the time and only wear their engagement rings on a night out etc. They say it is annoying to wear with little kids because it's always getting dirty or caught on things. It usually first came off with swollen pregnancy fingers.

If I were you, I would keep it. Pick out a spectacular ring for your 10 year anniversary when money will probably be a little less tight and you can really spoil yourself.