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Kathryn
Just Said Yes August 2020

Someone to marry us

Kathryn, on May 27, 2020 at 11:38 AM Posted in Pennsylvania Planning 0 17
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Help!! My wedding is Aug 29 and I can't find any one to marry us. We don't belong to a church so any pastor we have spoke to will not do it and PA dose not allow ordained pastors online. I don't know what to do. Can some one help me?

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    Expert December 2020
    Anais ·
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    Under the Vendor Tab in WeddingWire there is a category to lookup an officiant. Have you tried that? Looking up an officiant in your area through the Vendor tab?
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  • Meghan
    Rockstar October 2019
    Meghan ·
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    Try looking for wedding officiants in your area. As the PP said, you can find some under the vendor tab. You could also ask you venue, photographer, or any other vendors you've already booked if they have any recommendations.

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  • Nikki
    Savvy October 2021
    Nikki ·
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    Do you mean you can't have someone who got ordained through online? I got mine through universal life church. I live in NY though so they allow it. If you lived here I would do it for you for free. Stinks if they don't allow people to do it who went through it online.
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  • Kathryn
    Just Said Yes August 2020
    Kathryn ·
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    Yes I looked into it and PA won't allow an online ordained minister. To have a legal marriage in PA you have to go to the Justice of Peace Office or have a pastor marry you that has a congregation but we do not belong to a church and no Pastor will marry us unless we belong to their Church. Thank you. You are very kind.
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  • Kathryn
    Just Said Yes August 2020
    Kathryn ·
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    Thank you! I am new to the site and never saw that. I'll look there.
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    Beginner July 2020
    Salena ·
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    PA allows self-uniting marriages. You only need two witnesses to make it official. This way anyone can stand up front and "lead" the ceremony.

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  • Margaret
    VIP October 2020
    Margaret ·
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    Are any of your family members in PA? If so, why not reach out to their churches (if they attend). Often you can have a church marry you through family members belonging to a church versus you belonging.

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    Dedicated August 2021
    Jillian ·
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    Just reiterating two posts above: two of my friends were married in self-uniting ceremonies in PA. They're very common and no ordinance is required.

    If you or your fiance went to college in PA, another option is the university chaplain. They will often do ceremonies for alumni.

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    Master July 2019
    Veronica ·
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    Not sure where in Pennsylvania you are getting married, but my husband I got married in Pennsylvania. We are not members of a church and my husband doesn't believe in God so we didn't want to have a religious ceremony. I looked up celebrants in Pennsylvania. I spoke with several different ones. The one we went with was Mayor Dan McDavitt. As a former mayor, he was able to perform our ceremony. He is based out of Lewisburg, PA. He drove about 1.5 hours one way for our wedding. He was very nice. He made the ceremony very personal to us. I found him on here under vendors.

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  • Kari
    VIP May 2020
    Kari ·
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    Are you trying to have a religious ceremony, or are you fine with a civil service? We had a friend become a Justice of the Peace to serve as our officiant in our wedding. The entire process in New Hampshire took maybe a few months - if you start now you probably have time.

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  • Kerin
    Rockstar February 2021
    Kerin ·
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    I'm in Ohio and also don't belong to a church, but I used the vendor tab on this site to find an officiant in my area.

    Good luck and don't panic, it will be ok! ::hugs:: Smiley heart


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  • Nikki
    Savvy October 2021
    Nikki ·
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    Wow I'm sorry to hear that. I'm religious but I don't belong to a church and my fiance is not religious as all. So I understand the issue with the church and not wanting to do JOTP.
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  • Kayleigh
    May 2022
    Kayleigh ·
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    My friends officiant had a family emergency the week before her wedding, and she and her now husband are atheist so didn’t want to consider a pastor. I posted on several local fb groups assuming it was a long shot, but by the next day I had messages from 2 people who were ordained and available...
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  • Allison
    Beginner April 2021
    Allison ·
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    You actually can have an online ordained minister marry you in PA - my fiance got "ordained" through Universal Life Church and married our friends at their wedding in Philly in March! He did call and confirm with the city before committing and was told it wasn't a problem at all.

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  • Katie
    Beginner October 2022
    Katie ·
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    Yes, it really depends on the county in PA in which you want to get married. For example, near me Philadelphia and Bucks County won't bat an eye at a Universal Life Church minister. Your best bet is to call your county clerk and see if they will accept it - they may also be more lenient right now because of COVID, some couples would probably prefer to have a family member or close friend due to health risk.

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  • Erin
    Dedicated May 2021
    Erin Online ·
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    In boyertown pa my brother used the mayor of boyertown to officiate his wedding. Check with your local mayor...
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  • Brittany
    Devoted October 2020
    Brittany ·
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    We are getting married in Bucks County and found a fantastic pastor named Chuck Blair. We don’t belong to a church either, and overall he’s been wonderful about everything. The only kind of ceremony he said he wouldn’t perform was one with costumes, haha.
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