Solo ideas in lieu of bridal shower

I’m not sure what you’re asking. It is not polite to host a self celebrating event, especially one where gifts are expected or in the case of a shower, obligatory. If you are looking for ways to celebrate on your own, that’s not a shower.


What you can do is host a bridal luncheon FOR your friends, in honor of your friendships, not yourself. Obviously no gifts would be involved.

You can host a regular lunch. But it’s impolite and a faux pas to host any of your own pre wedding parties. If someone doesn’t make the initiative to host something for you, then they don’t happen. Countless couples experience that and it doesn’t mean that no one loves them. But outside of coworkers or a house of worship hosting an event, only those invited to the wedding are allowed to be invited to the pre wedding parties. What do you mean by a civil ceremony? Is that secular (non religious) or an elopement with no guests? Because US vs the rest of the world has varying definitions and even among the same area people don’t agree.

Yeah these comments aren't really helpful. I asked about what can I by myself in lieu of having bachelorette party, since I don't have anyone hosting one. It just seems like these comments just want to lecture me on what is "socially acceptable" and not creative ways I can celebrate by myself. Which is sad, because I came to this site hoping to find others who were in a similar situation and what they did to still celebrate even if they had to do it alone.

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Your post title was very confusing. A bachelorette party and a shower are two different things. If you're asking for ways to celebrate on your own, again, that's not a shower. You can, of course, go on a solo shopping spree, treat yourself to a weekend away, a great dinner out or a show. As for a bachelorette, I believe there are tour groups that cater to women traveling alone, if that's something that appeals to you. Or you could stick closer to home and do a staycation type of event, alone or with a friend.

You could treat yourself to a spa day! That would be a great way to celebrate and feel relaxed and renewed. Otherwise, what types of activities are you normally into? A hike in the mountains (plus a picnic lunch at a scenic overlook), or visiting an amusement park for the day, or dressing up and going out for a fancy dinner would all be good options of things you can do solo. Another idea is to schedule a photoshoot with a photographer (either a boudoir session, or a session of you and your pets if you have any, or of you in a sunflower field, etc). If you're into escape rooms, you could try solving one of those by yourself. Or you could buy yourself tickets to a concert that you've always wanted to see. A solo vacation for a long weekend somewhere could also be fun!

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OH yes! these are good ideas! A Photoshoot with my pup would be fun! I want to feel like i marked the occasion in some way.

I think it’s great to think of fun things to do for yourself instead of trying to force people into hosting something. I’d try to think of something I enjoy but always feel a little silly or awkward doing alone, and just go all out. Like I love going to the arcade, but I always feel like I need people and a reason to do it. Go do your thing, take silly photos, and have a blast!


PS - I adjusted your title slightly to help you get better advice. I think it was sending people off in the wrong direction.

View Quoted Comment I love this reply!!!!

I kinda feel the same way! But that’s why I’m having a mini party before the wedding with the all the ladies that show up. Me and my fiancé don’t have time for it so we both decided to book separate rooms! Since i don't wanna be seen before the wedding lol. We have the brides suite and the grooms suite. I call it a pre party before the ceremony. I thought it was a good idea when I came up with it! I never expect nothing from anyone because it hurts when they don’t come thru. Cause I’m always there. But hey whatever lol. Not saying that’s you. I just do things myself and enjoy the moment! Now that I have the perfect soon to be husband! I Praise God and Thank My Man Cause they are All I need! But I love Andrea Response!

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Hi Terietta! I completely sympathize with your sentiments. Many of us will only go through this process once in our lives and when we come looking for advice that requires coloring outside the lines, correction seems to be the order.

But don't despair, there are options for you! I'm surprised nobody's brought up bridal tea. This has become a recent choice of brides who are passing on traditional ceremonies that go part and parcel with the usual pre-wedding event lineup. Although the term shower implies being showered, a way to enjoy the usual activities of a shower without the implications of one is to host a tea, whereupon you can invite your female friends and relatives for petit fours, pretty dresses, games and conversation. Just be sure to designate a point person to collect coats --plus any surprise gifts-- and stow them away. No gift tables and no mention of gifts. This removes expectations and allows everyone to enjoy the day, despite what people might feel compelled to bring.

Additionally, if you do have close friends who support your decisions and you are not wanting --or feeling it's proper-- to do the coordination yourself, I suggest taking out the closest of them for a coffee and talking over your concerns. These are confidantes in your life, so please don't feel like you're placing undue responsibility on them. Just share your vision and see to what extent they can help you out given the unconventional nature of your celebration. A good friend will hear you out, and maybe there is some equally unconventional way you can honor her for stepping up to the occasion.

Best of luck! ♥