Social Media: Is this rude??

Welp lol Thats all I've got. She's likely just excited and doesnt realize its a setup for those " where's my invite?" questions Or she doesnt care lol.

This definitely isn't right. The first post you shared about her wedding invitations can make people feel like crap when they don't receive an invitation (if for whatever reason they thought they might).

For example, I know a bride that told me she almost did something like this. She had spent every week for months updating me about what wedding details she was working on and telling me all about what her wedding was going to be like.

So one day, this bride comes up to me and is so excited that she and her now husband finished putting together and addressing their invitations. She then shared that she had so many people bothering her about whether or not they were going to be invited that she almost posted on Facebook that "we mailed our invitations today. If you don't receive one in 3 days, guess you're not invited!" Such a good decision not to post that! Not such a wise move venting and sharing that with someone who wasn't about to receive an invitation from you in 3 days. I never once asked her if I was going to be invited, either. It was all just so rude and uncalled for, and that's what your cousin's post reminds me of. People know she has her invitations. Not only does she have to deal with the potential comments asking "can I be invited" or "send me one of those," but now her entire social network knows she's gotten her invitations, is working on them, and once she's finished stuffing and addressing, she'll be mailing them soon. It makes it more obvious to friends who aren't invited that they aren't invited when they realize you were working on invitations, should be done with them by now, and they never got one.

The public shower invite is just tacky and gift grabby.

Yuck.

Not good I would have her remove it

That's rude.

Wow....yes that is very rude. I have been VERY careful to not post my actual date on social media. The closet thing I did was posted "We're in double digits, almost time." Which I even debated doing....but I was excited and happy.

No no no.

I don't see why everyone gets their panties in a bunch about Facebook. She's excited about her wedding!! Who cares? I've seen many people post oh my wedding is 3 months away!! I'm so excited!

And I didn't receive an invite..was I mad? No! It's THEIR wedding.

I made a Secret Group on Facebook and only invited people that were invited to our wedding.

Due to WW, I want to make sure everyone gets their mail!

I already had one STD returned to me and one (after I posted in the Group to let me know if they never got their STD) tell me that he never received his. Had I not done this, I would never have known!

But I'd definitely never announce stuff like that to my entire friends list!

I knew not to from Day 1 after our engagement announcement when friends started asking when the date was, and I don't mean just out of curiosity, I mean the same people kept asking over & over, and I never planned on inviting them. I think they got the hint when I kept on ignoring them or I'd just say "December"

Not really rude but asking for trouble from people who may or may not have been invited. People know how to check a mailbox ......Well most people lol

Just make a separate group on facebook and title it so and so's wedding and then post something like that on the group

Yikes that's tough. I'd be tempted to pull her aside and give her some pointers if it was a close relationship...but if the relationship is a little strained, that would be hard to do without her getting defensive. I'm being really private on social media too. And trying to not talk about my wedding at work. Even if I'm asked I try to change the subject (unless the person who asked is invited lol).

That's just asking for unwanted guests I would not do this

80% of the time, I honestly ignore Facebook invites. I think they're tacky and I don't want anything about our wedding, engagement, etc. put on social media. Some things are just too special to share with the whole world. And what people don't realize is, when you post something and someone "likes" it or comments on it, their friends can see your post. It shows up in their news feed. That's just creepy.

Unless you plan on inviting all of your FB friends, please don't do this. Keep the wedding talk on FB as low key as possible.

I don't see this as rude. She was excited to have her invites in and wanted to post about it, which is fine. If she does get unwanted guests hopping in her inbox, I am sure she will know how to handle it. Nothing rude about it, though!

I think it could lead to false expectations for some folks

There's that overly original word again, tacky! It's just not really a Facebook necessity. Everyone she invited will get an invite and those who don't may feel slighted