Social media etiquette

I think you know your social media friends the best. If you don't think people will be hurt for not getting invited then post away! Just don't go overboard not everyone enjoys wedding talk. I avoided all wedding talk on social media until I finalized my guest list. From the day we announced our engagement I had a friend asking me questions about the wedding, which I avoided the best I could because I wasn't sure if I could invite her.

@SuYa - Hashtags help organize posts across platforms. If you use the pound sign (#) on any social media platform it will bring up every post with that hashtag. You can find photos and posts from attendees on facebook, twitter, instragram, etc. It's useful if you want to go back later and try to capture some of those great moments you missed. It is also a way for folks to communicate, i.e. on Twitter User @SuYasBestFriend could use the hashtag #SuYaGetsMarried to ask a questions or give directions.

Example: Twitter

@SuYasBestFriend - hey #SuYaGetsMarried folks! Some of us are meeting at Bar Blah Blah Blah for some pre-wedding weekend drinks! Come join us!

Hope that helps!

I am very active on social media, but I think it depends on what it is. For example, engagement posts, absolutely! Pictures from your bridal shower and bachelorette party, absolutely! I posted pictures from the day I went dress shopping with my BMs, and a status about how excited I was that I found my dress. I also posted a countdown statuses...I think at the 1 month mark. I posted a day-of status about marrying the man of my dreams. I also posted pictures of my RD and OF COURSE wedding pictures after the fact, and honeymoon pictures.

NO ONE cares about your wedding plans though, so I would definitely not include statuses or pictures of projects you're working on, vendors that you book, etc. It is poor etiquette to post things like, "I need addresses for wedding invites!" or "Don't forget to send your RSVP cards back!"

I posted about getting engaged, having an awesome wedding planner & finding my dress because it was a "WOW MOMENT" in very general statements! Since then, I don't post anything on social media because I like to stay away from comments that can be judgmental, negative, sarcastic, etc. Don't want the influences about my choices, etc. whether it be from family or friends. In fact, my planner and I are the only people that know what my dress looks like!! I want everything to be like "WOW" on my wedding day, so....the less that people know....the better!! I take all my advice from my planner, using my personal likes and discussions with my fiancé to make decisions! It's easier that way and no outside conflict about this special day I'm planning for! Simple...I just don't think that people I'm not close to should be privy to sharing my special moments!!! In other words, do what makes you comfortable & happy and only you know that!!

I've really only posted twice about the wedding.

The first time was announcing we were engaged and updating our Facebook status.

The second time was two weeks ago. We got our engagement photos back. I changed my profile pic, timeline pic, and shared one photo on Instagram talking about how much I love my photographer. No shit, this last weekend we were at a party and so many people (who are not invited) told us to send them an invitation. I barely knew some of these people! We mostly just ignored the comments or said "we're still working on our guest list."

ETA: I should also mention that we post about our engagement so infrequently (ie. never) that some people just assumed the engagement photos were an announcement and FH was getting congratulated at work all the next day. I thought it was safe to share a couple e-pics, but I guess not.

I agree with @Crystal O and Kristen B.