Social media etiquette

Most people on here will tell you that it is not only poor etiquette, but simply a bad idea in general to post things about your wedding on social media. If you do, you could end up with people inviting themselves and then you have to have the awkward convo of "sorry, you actually can't come...".

That being said, while I'm not flaunting it all over the place, I have made a couple posts about my wedding (one about being excited for my bouquet to come in, and another being excited that I'm getting things paid off early), and of course, I updated my status to "Engaged". I feel like people should have enough common sense to know that if you haven't actually talked to them in over a year, they're probably not going to get invited. If anyone asks you, tell them that unfortunately your budget/venue is only allowing a small number of people, and while you wish you could invite more people, you don't have enough room on the guest list. In all honesty (depending on how often you use it, I guess ) it's near impossible to keep everything wedding related away from FB. So just do the best you can, and hope that all your friends are understanding.

I personally have been talking alot about my wedding on social media. It is there to keep people updated about your life and, well, the wedding for me is all that I think about. I have been asked by someone If they were invited and let them know only close friends and family. I don't see a problem with it at all. It's your page and your excited about it!

I posted one update when we got engaged (and changed my status), and then didn't post another thing until a few days before when out of town guests started arriving. I didn't have any trouble keeping it off social media - I shared stuff with appropriate friends and family via private messages when I wanted to share my excitement about something. I've heard too many stories of long lost friends asking for invites, plus I don't usually share every detail of my life online anyway.

I would have a very hard time talking about my wedding if half of my friends on FB were not invited. It's not at all difficult to share ideas and thoughts with those who are invited, via PM. Actually, I don't even see the point of private messaging your guests with updates on your wedding. They'll be getting formal invitations, and once they arrive, they'll see everything you've planned and paid for. I honestly don't see the point in talking about a wedding that only a minority of your friends are invited to attend.

I agree with what PPs have said. I'm not sure it's outright rude, because Facebook has changed the way we socialize. Perhaps you don't want to clean up your friend list and you have people from high school or that one group project in college, well they certainly shouldn't expect to be invited. However you're saying that you're not inviting people because of drama. Are these people you're otherwise close to? I disapprove of having close toxic friends who have redeeming qualities so you keep them around when it's convenient. That's a rude lifestyle in general. So perhaps just change your relationship status. Regarding those you did invite posting pictures during and after the wedding, it's not rude and there's nothing you can do to control their personal social media.

I have seen many brides post all about their wedding on social media and it's actually nice to see. People are so damn sensitive these days

I only speak about when someone ask about it.

There's an option for you to select who can't see your posts. I strongly recommend doing that so you avoid unwanted drama and stress.

Why does everyone feel the need to post their life on social media.

I think it depends on how much. If all you post about is your wedding like everyone knows all the details. I think that is a little much, but I don't see a problem with posting little things. I think we posted when we found our officiant (because I was super excited), which is funny now since we changed our plans to have a DW. I posted our engagement pictures and do the occassional "x months until the day" and I know people posted pictures of my invitations because they were super cool (they looked like passports). Moral of the story, I think it is okay to share your excitement on facebook, but I don't think everything you post should be about your wedding to the point that everyone knows everything about it.

I have only posted a couple of times, the reason is I just figured people would get tired of reading about my wedding plans.

I love seeing people's posts on social media regarding their weddings even if I'm not invited. Why? Because I'm sane and realize just because you know someone doesn't mean you'll be invited to the wedding. I just enjoy seeing people happy and keeping up with people.

I don't see anything wrong with it, but to avoid drama I didn't post much. I think I posted one picture when we got engaged and one picture when I was dress shopping.

That's it.

Only because not everyone was invited. People for some reason think that when they see stuff about your wedding on social media, they are automatically your best friend. Just from those two posts, I stopped posting about it because I would get the, "looking forward to my invite!" Comments from people I haven't talked to in years!

I say best not do it. But there are other ways to share the excitement of planning a wedding.

I'm excited for people to post things afterwards, but until about the week of the wedding I'm probably not going to say anything publicly.

You can make a private group with your wedding party if you want to share things and bounce ideas, just remember they don't have to plan anything for you.

Yes a bit rude. I stopped talking about it on my Facebook because on the beginning I was peppered with awkward questions. The only time I'll post is a countdown every once in a while and I'll definitely be sharing my wedding photos.

I posted when we were engaged, I posted asking local friends for their favorite tacos in the valley so I could start taste testing and pick one to cater (one of my favs was highly recommended by guest, had awesome reviews as a wedding caterer, and was the most affordable! Win!!), and I posted when we were 5 months out because I was so excited! No one has asked for an invite.

I posted when I got engaged, but nothing else. I don't honestly post a lot on social media to begin with, if you're close to me you know without social media what I'm up to.

It's not rude per say, but it makes for some awkward conversations.

Also you can't tell your guests not to post pictures or anything after the event. So that's irrelevant.

I love seeing other people post about their wedding on social media as logn as they don't overdo it, but I don't do it often. And when I do, it's on Snapchat so it disappears and all of my friends on Snapchat are actually invited.

I've kept everything wedding related off of social media, I think that's best. I did post some of our engagement photos. I think pictures are fine as long as it's a select few and not an album of 200 of them

I've chosen not to post simply because I don't want people in my business. I posted about the engagement, but I won't be posting all the milestones along the way. I don't think people on my page would particularly be offended by the postings, I just don't need them to know all my planning details. But then again, I don't put much of my personal life on social media, so this isn't random for me. I think you should think about how much or how little you want people to know. Happy planning, try not to get stressed in the process. Have fun