Finally mrs.jkr
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S/o- when people think your ring is "too big" or gaudy

Finally mrs.jkr, on July 17, 2015 at 9:03 PM Posted in Community Conversations 0 49
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The "offended at little ring comments" thread, I thought of this. I adore my ring, but some people sometimes comment about how I seem like a simple styled girl for such a big ring, or that "well I could never pull off a ring like that" with rude tones. I think it's about the right size for my sausage-y fingers. Although most comments are positive, I get agitated with negative ones. Sometimes I feel people look at it and judge me, since sometimes if conversations start later it feels like they often feel I'm materialistic and demanded a ring like this... Or if they know we're students asking/implying that it's fake since "there's no way a student could afford a real ring like that". I adore my ring since my husband picked it out himself and it's gorgeous. Anyone in this same boat? I feel with size you're kind of in a "damned if I do, damned if I don't" situation :/


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  • FFW
    Master August 2016
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    I thought I wanted a simple ring but my fh is more flashy than me so I got a more flashy ring than I would have picked. But I love it. It grew on me really fast. Its actually 4 square diamonds that make one big square and the band is two rows of diamonds. It makes me feel different. At one venue they had square tables & a square cake stand. I was thinking if we get a square cake all the things will be square lol.

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  • Imtheone4Him
    Master September 2015
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    I think you could take all those comments on her post and apply them to this thread too.

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  • Diana
    Super October 2015
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    If people don't have anything nice to say, they should just keep it to themselves. If you're past that point, then you can deflect their negativity as nicely as you can. A very good friend of mine and I both have a round diamond set on a simple Tiffany style band. Difference is her diamond is a carat bigger and her ring size is 1.5 sizes smaller than mine. So hers looks way bigger to the point where some people think it's a little too much while people will say mine is beautiful and simple. . Girl can't help it she has thin fingers and last time I checked there's no rules saying you need to get a proportional ring.

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  • Lady O.
    Super March 2015
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    What kind of stone is that?? It's gorgeous!

    I've gotten rude comments about my ring being large. I just say "Yeah, it's pretty awesome."

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  • Doublej079
    VIP August 2015
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    Yeah, I get the "is it real?" comment a lot, followed by the comment that FH must have a great job to afford such a big ring. It's not ridiculously big, and it's not a diamond...it's Morganite! I don't feel the need to explain myself to everyone, and I actually asked for that specific stone, because the color is gorgeous. We looked at rings when we talked about getting married and I was the one who decided against a diamond. OP - I think your ring is so beautiful!


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  • Jessie
    Dedicated October 2015
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    I get comments that mine is "nontraditional" a lot... and not always in a nice way. But the diamonds were my fiances great grandmothers and the red stones are garnet which is both of our birthstones.. He spent two months designing it and its so unique I love it.


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  • Jessie
    Dedicated October 2015
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    I get comments that mine is "nontraditional" a lot... and not always in a nice way. But the diamonds were my fiances great grandmothers and the red stones are garnet which is both of our birthstones.. He spent two months designing it and its so unique I love it.


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  • Jessie
    Dedicated October 2015
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    I get comments that mine is "nontraditional" a lot... and not always in a nice way. But the diamonds were my fiances great grandmothers and the red stones are garnet which is both of our birthstones.. He spent two months designing it and its so unique I love it.


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  • Future Mrs. Weaver
    Devoted March 2016
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    I get the is it real a lot. And guess what? The center isnt. I mean, it is, but it is not a diamond. But I am not someone who sees aaannnnnyyy value in diamonds. I can not wrap my head around anyone ever buying a diamond. Not that if you want to you shouldnt. I just dont get it. My ring is beautiful, and it bothers me none what people think of me if i tell the the center stone is not a diamond. I wanted a heart. That wasnt yellow or cloudy or speckled. For the size I wanted, with the ring i purchased(which was expensive as hell without the center stone), it would have been over $50,000! That is a stupid amount of money to spend on something so frivilous. My ring is gorgeous, and i get compliments on it all the time.


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  • Future Mrs. Weaver
    Devoted March 2016
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    Doublej079, me too! Morganite! And i was the one who decided that as well! Diamonds mean nothing to me, and the morganite was so beautiful, and i could get the size i wanted in the cut i wanted for in my budget!

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  • Future Mrs. Weaver
    Devoted March 2016
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    Oh wait, Im wrong. Moissanite? I think thats it. Nvm. Anyways, i saw it in a setting at the jewlers and fell in love with the fire. We held it up in comparison to even a diamond, and i just could not understand why the diamond would cost more. Smh lol i guess i dont understand how a rock is that important.


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  • Monica SC
    Master October 2015
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    Does it count if FH said that my ring makes it look like he's rich? lol

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  • Rachel DellaPorte
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    There isn't a ring on this thread that I wouldn't immediately notice. I'd say to each of you exactly what was in my head, "Wow. What a gorgeous ring". It is unthinkable to me that anyone would ever mention the size of the stone or ask the owner if it was real. I don't care if they're diamonds, CZs, precious stones, semi-precious stones, or simulated gems -- I just love rings with faceted stones (although I only wear a wedding band now).

    I was in Walmart yesterday to pick up prescriptions for a friend. I rarely go to Walmart because I can't deal with the crowds or the lines. However, I did stop at the jewelry counter just to gawk at their selection of rings. Even the simulated stones are beautiful -- any color, any size. Actually, I couldn't believe the CZ and sterling silver engagement rings they had for $88. I would never know I wasn't looking at a diamond (and furthermore, I'd never ask).

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  • Rachel DellaPorte
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    Sarah, if you fell in love with the fire in that stone, you fell in love with moisannite. They are stunningly beautiful stones known for their brilliance (I've read that they are considered more brilliant than diamonds and second only to diamonds in hardness). Without a doubt, moisannite would be my first choice of stone if I were to ever replace my engagement ring.

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  • KarenM
    Master November 2014
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    I told DH not to give me a diamond. Like Sarah, I never understood the importance of having a diamond. I wanted something that meant something to us. We were both born in March and the birthstone is an aquamarine. Blue is my favorite color. DH proposed with a plain sterling silver band that he's had for years. The next day we went out together and got the ring of my dreams. I love it to pieces.


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  • KarenM
    Master November 2014
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    I told DH not to give me a diamond. Like Sarah, I never understood the importance of having a diamond. I wanted something that meant something to us. We were both born in March and the birthstone is an aquamarine. Blue is my favorite color. DH proposed with a plain sterling silver band that he's had for years. The next day we went out together and got the ring of my dreams. I love it to pieces.


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  • Future Mrs. Weaver
    Devoted March 2016
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    Thank you! And yes I love it. And I love my heart. The first ring my fiance gave me was a heart. An emerald as a promise ring after our 6 months( we were still a little young to be engaged inour families eyes) and now my e ring. I tell anyone that moissonite is the way to go. Like i said, i never understood the hooplah over diamonds.

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  • AlexisM082
    Master February 2016
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    I'm always getting people asking me if my engagement ring is real. I even asked FB which ring they thought was the real one and which was the fake. Most people thought the cushion cut was real because my real engagement (the pear shaped one) ring is just really big. Yes it's real. Please stop touching me. Lol


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  • MzRosaLu
    Master July 2016
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    I'm in the "small" ring group, and I think either way, people who make negative comments are jealous or just miserable people. It would never occur to me to make a negative comment about someone's ring, especially one with such sentimental value! I sometimes see people's rings that are not my taste, but I can't even fathom actually making a comment like that. Some people have no class.

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  • Snarky
    Master September 2014
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    I also have a "small" (I guess) but real ring. I guess you can't win either way. As long as you like it, don't let other people's opinions get you down.


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