So Rude

Hmm strange. They may not have known

First of all- no one has to bring a gift to your wedding or any wedding. However I would never go to a wedding empty handed as my parents taught me you don't. But yea- it would be hella inappropriate to ask ppl to Venmo you.

'First of all- no one has to bring a gift to your wedding or any wedding.'

Of course no one has to but it's damn rude not to.

OK now I feel horrible...my group of friends has done a A LOT of destination weddings and I typically send them a gift after the wedding due to the logistics of traveling with the gift....so I don't give them anything at their actual wedding...is this rude??

ETA: I've done this for the last 5 weddings am I a horrible wedding guest. Crap:/

This happened to my friend, but it was her cousin who also quilted her into letting her bring like 4 other guests so she didn't feel lonely... Then they all showed up empty handed

We had a few people who didn't show up with cards (mainly two of DH's brothers). That bothered him more than me. One of our guests who I know things are tight for gave a card with no gift. We were perfectly fine with that. It's the thought that counts.

For some people, its common knowledge. Others, its the higher Algebra class they never ever understood. I think they really just didn't know but if they don't send a card after they left or within a couple days of the wedding then that's not right. Money or not, you at least give a card and thank them for inviting you....

It's an expectation but not a requirement that if you attend a wedding you bring a card with money or a gift. I don't know if I would call it rude so much as inconsiderate.

I totally agree that's it's rude to show up empty handed. But some people are actually clueless if they've never been to a wedding before or were never taught to bring something to a wedding. My moh's friend came to ours as her plus one and he didn't get us anything. It was his first wedding. If people know better, it's definitely rude. But he was clueless so I can understand how some people really don't know better.

I think it depends on their age and maturity level. Or maybe examples they’ve seen. I was invited to a wedding in my early twenties two weeks before the date as I had recently met the bride and was friends with her roommate/bridesmaid and some people had declined. Her roommate asked me to bring the bride Starbucks on the way to the venue and since I had been invited so last minute, I didn’t have a gift in hand (it was my first wedding) and the bride told me “it’s okay, Starbucks can be my gift.” I felt awful. Fast forward a year later, I got invited to a new friends wedding on a normal timeline and attended her bridal shower and wedding, each time with a gift in hand.

FH and I weren’t registered because we moved to Europe and could only take what we could pack into suitcases. I’m in my mid-twenties, the first to get married, and was shocked how many in my friends circle didn’t even bring a card with a nice note. Totally aware that not everyone can afford a wedding gift and that is 100% okay with me. FH and I are financially well off but I thought a sweet card from some people might be nice. FH is in his early 30s and I was definitely shocked at the adorable and funny cards his fraternity friends from his college days found for us. So I guess it just depends on the person. I, too, don’t know what I would do in your position OP. Like someone else said, I show up to any sort of fully hosted party (BBQ, birthday, holiday party, etc) with a gift in hand.

I'm odd because I HATE cards. I don't save them and I think they are a waste. People who are super close know this and never get me a card. They literally just hand me a gift card or gift bag. This being said, I always buy cards for other people. I would never show up to a wedding or birthday party with out one.

I can't even imagine showing up to a BBQ empty handed, let alone a wedding! That is crazy.

I will be the first person im my family to get married, and not one of them knows about bringing gifts/cards to a wedding so i directed them all to my wedding website so they can see. Plus i explained it to my sister(moh) so she will let them know. Some people really dont know any better lol

So incredibly rude. I wouldn't show up to a friend's house for dinner empty handed, much less a wedding.