So Rude

I'd be horrified if I attended someone's wedding without giving them something.

Completely rude, as a host there were so many rules of etiquette we had to follow. Guests really only have two, dress apporpriately and bring a gift! It's not hard!

Yikes! If they didn't want to give them something at least bring a card.

Venmo? The best part of opening our cards was reading all the sweet messages people wrote.

With the amount of advertising stores do for their wedding registry programs, you would think that they would have heard of a wedding gift before! Wow. I would be mortified to show up without at least a card.

That being said, I realize people like this exist and won't be upset if we have guests who show up empty-handed at our wedding.

I can't imagine, as an adult, showing up to any hosted party empty handed. I show up to pool parties with jello shots, dinners with wine, bonfires with beer and ice...how do you not think of that?!

Honestly I didn't know about getting a card. So , I wouldn't accuse them of being rude. I went to my sisters wedding and I didn't bring anything. I didn't know I have to give a gift. I contributed for her flowers for the wedding but It wasn't really a gift. I have only been to 3 weddings. And I am 34. Without WW I wouldn't really know anything about wedding etiquette.

I can't imagine showing up to a wedding empty handed but hopefully this couple sent them a gift after the wedding.

I definitely don't bring anything to the wedding itself. I always send gifts/cards to their home ahead of time.

I don't think it's appropriate to not give anything at all at some point.

We had a few guests who didn't give a card or a gift. It's not a big deal to me, but I did notice. These are also the same people who didn't send me a thank you card when I attended their weddings and bought them gifts... that irks me even more. I definitely had bad etiquette as a guest when I attended my first wedding as an adult. I was pretty clueless, but now I'd never attend any event without bringing something.

What is extra amazing to me is that A and B are married! They had a wedding! Surely they got cards and gifts!

They didn't use their brains...

Should always at least bring a card

@pammat, they actually didn't have a wedding, they were married just the two of them with just their moms in attendance. And they didn't even tell anyone they got married until like, 6 months later. They wanted to do a big wedding aka vow renewal but they decided not to, not sure why, I think it was important to one of them and not the other so they decided just to nix it.

They definitely didn't send anything beforehand and I agree, venmo is so impersonal. With them, I was like, whatever, venmo if you want, since it was after the fact but yeah, definitely not something I would ever suggest someone does! I know with my own wedding, I'm really looking forward to seeing what people write to us in cards/guestbook, whatever.

I am always a gift giver. My fiancé on the other hand, wouldn't have given anybody anything, even a card, for the past 6 years (except me or he'd be living outside) I don't think he is trying to be rude... just really nonchalant..

We went to my FBIL wedding and my FH didn't realize we should bring them anything to a wedding so I explained and we got them a cute gift with a card

I agree that they sound clueless, but maybe it's just how you're telling the story, OP.

It's definitely rude. I would never show up anywhere without a card at the very very very least! That's just not nice.

There are frequent posts on WW of brides complaining after their weddings about guests who gave them nothing, not even a card. It is not uncommon at all. Some people are truly clueless. Others are cheap or rude. In some regions, if you give shower gift, you don't give anything else for the wedding.

Venmo...ha, maybe honeyfunds will actually take off

Idk, there have been a couple weddings I went to as an adult where I was clueless. I definitely got the couples gifts with a nice message with the gift...but at the time I didn't know I also needed to bring a card. You live and learn I guess. I've never been an expert at etiquette :/ Edit to ask: what's the protocol for giving gifts before a wedding? With the registries I used I had the gifts sent directly to the couple weeks before the wedding so I didn't actually bring anything to the wedding?

@Rae, if you sent a registry gift directly to the couple before the wedding, that's fine. You don't need to bring anything to the wedding in that case.