Amy
Savvy August 2020

So over it!!!

Amy, on April 30, 2020 at 3:41 PM Posted in Community Conversations 0 10
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Is anyone else so over this stress?! My wedding is supposed to be August 1st in Texas and it doesnt seem like it's going to happen even if it does will ppl show? so I'm thinking of alternatives maybe getting married in my semi-small backyard with close family and friends and my sisters think I will regret it and tells me I need to stop being wishy washey and decide but how am I supposed to decide during a pandemic?! Even If I pay the thousands of dollars for my wedding venue and no one comes I don't get a do-over! and at this point I'm just so over it I dont even want a wedding anymore, I feel like I'm trying my hardest to keep my cool but I'm just so confused and needed to vent I feel like no one understands what I'm going through.

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Latest activity by Gina, on May 1, 2020 at 2:25 PM
  • Sara
    Dedicated August 2020
    Sara ·
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    To tell you the truth I did the exact same thing back in march when all this started. I was mad, I was crying almost daily fighting with myself over should we postpone should we just continue and pray this will be over by may 9th. And then we made the decision to postpone and I just felt numb. I was 54 days away. Some brides even closer than myself. And then I was suddenly 150 days away. It was unfair. Some brides pushed it out over a year. My father in law saw how heart broken we were. He asked if he could get ordained and marry us in the yard. We agreed because at that point we needed a little light in our lives and everything else was falling apart. So we got married 1 day before our 1 year anniversary of being engaged. And it was beautiful and I dont regret it. We had love that day and that is all that mattered. So yes you may regret it, may not get a do over, but you definitely wont regret finally getting to say I do. No matter what day it is, what year it is, or even if it's in a fancy venue or in your back yard. In times like these I'm glad I let love win and eventually I will get a wedding. May not be for a while depending on how this virus is acting but at least I have my husband by my side. ❤
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  • Renee
    Super June 2020
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    How beautiful! Congratulations to you! Very inspiring and finally some positive news on here! Your reception day will be just as beautiful as your story!

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  • Renee
    Super June 2020
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    I totally understand how you are feeling and was there three weeks ago. You're going to have to list the pros/cons of different scenarios. For us it was getting married on original date and reception later, wait it out for positive or negative outcome, or postpone the whole wedding now and look forward.

    Waiting it out had the most cons. We would lose money, our guests definitely wouldn't be there, we couldn't start a family and it would lead to a complete depressive state on my end. You know the guys are doing alright in this time...lol. Also the salon where my dress is at is still not open and I still have 2-3 more fittings.

    Postponing the whole wedding was also out because like mentioned, we want to start having a family. My eggs are getting low and he's not a spring chicken.

    So we will get married in June with whoever can attend or watch on livestream and we will party later with as many friends and family members that can attend. We can't stress over what other people do. If they come great, if not I understand. Even with postponing the reception like Sara said, it might not happen and you might not get a do over. A marriage will be there forever and you won't regret saying I Do no matter who is watching.

    There's only so much you can control in an uncertain and unpredictable situation. But you can choose how to live right now in this moment. It's about you two. So talk it out, go through the pros/cons, cry some more, eat chocolate, drink tons of wine and make a decision for your sanity. You'll feel so much weight lifted off your shoulders when you do. Good luck!


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  • Lindsay
    Devoted July 2021
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    I’m with you so much my emotions are all over the place but what matters is your love my fiancé and I pushed our wedding from July to October and still I am not feeling good about it but we have decided to elope in our original date because it has a lot of meaning to us and we just don’t want to wait anymore I am heartbroken and I don’t even know if my friends can physically be there although I will have them over zoom and have someone record the ceremony but at the end of the day it is about us and our love and yes the wedding is painful I am feeling it bad but I know that at the end of the day we will be married and we have each other and we will figure out a way some day to celebrate with our friends I’m not going to deny that I don’t go up and down with emotions because to me the wedding meant more then just a party it was a unity and a way of sharing it with my loved ones and those I haven’t seen in a while but I am trying to shift my thinking and realize how all that matters is the love between my fiancé and I and saying I do to each other however we do it will hold the most meaning and it will make us stronger so hang in there I know how hard this is but focus on what matters the most and everything else will come.
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  • V
    Beginner May 2020
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    We got married in a ceremony with just four of us right before the lock down and postponed our wedding until October. Who knows if that will be far enough out.

    I can tell you that we don't regret it at all. In fact it's the only thing that has taken some of the pressure off.

    I was lucky and got to wear a wedding dress and veil but not my real wedding dress and veil. It's been keeping me going and I look at the pictures all the time and can't wait to celebrate with everyone when it becomes possible.

    Good luck and do what feels right for you. We are all in unchartered waters here and hopefully people will extend us grace for whatever decisions we all end up making during this time.

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  • Michelle
    VIP September 2021
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    I'm right with you. I was trying to stay as positive as possible but at this point I'm over it. We've been engaged since 2018 and to get to 2020 to have this happen really BLOWS! We thought the samething, our out of towners may not feel comfortable even flying in, just so many things. Then the headache of trying to find a new date and get all your vendors on the same page...OVER ITTTTTTT!!! Just keep waiting as long as you can. We have made a backup plan to just jump on a flight and head to Vegas to get married! Can't stress it anymore!
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  • Courtney
    Expert July 2020
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    I understand how stressed you feel! Our wedding is set for July. At first I was worried about who wouldn't show, but now I'm not. Whoever is supposed to be there will be there! Those are the people that matter along with marrying your best friend ❤️ Just take a deep breath, talk it over with FH and you two make the best decision for you TWO.
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  • Courtney
    Expert July 2020
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    This is beautiful ❤️ Congratulations!
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  • Laura
    Rockstar September 2020
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    We're having a 5 person wedding on a date that matters to us. Tuxes, dress, etc. And then a celebrating later. Totally over it. And yes, I'm wearing the dress. I don't want to miss the chance!!
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  • Gina
    WeddingWire Administrator April 2021
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    Hi Amy,

    I'm sorry you're having to think about postponing your August wedding on top of planning your big day. eyFYBiGtFgC4Ag-LxBWWMP5UvJmt7cCKk6ZuRGas

    I agree with the recommendations above. While this is definitely an uncertain time, it seems like plenty of August couples are waiting to make postponement decisions. Of course, everyone's situation is different, so it never hurts to be proactive about plan B!

    You also aren't alone right now! ❤️ Other August couples are discussing their COVID-19 concerns here: I need you, August 2020 brides

    Plus, there are many resources on our website to help you navigate the serious decision to postpone your wedding: Our COVID-19 Weddings Advice Guide.

    Hope this helps!

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