So I went to a potluck wedding

I have a friend who was trying to convince me that potluck is the way to go for weddings... I am definitely showing this to her!

With 30-40 people I get a caterer. You know, insurance. Look. What if the meat was tainted at the store before it was brought home and refrigerated properly? It's a risk that I wouldn't take.

I think in theory it always sounds good but it requires so much time and effort.... and guests should NEVER be workers at the wedding... nope

Wow! I have never read such a self-righteous completely snobbish response to a poll. Clearly the audience of this page is from those who are having the wedding paid for by their father. In this day and age it is not always possible. I definitely feel that there is an audience for a potluck and that wouldn't be those who expect if $40 a plate dinner. And and to those people I say go for it who wouldn't want to have a beautiful sit down dinner. The purpose of the wedding is to share your special day with your guests because you want them there you want them to help celebrate the event. If it's a matter of inviting your loved ones and Friends or eliminating people off your list because you can't afford the dinner I say have a potluck. There are tasteful ways of doing it. You could have guess sign up for a number of things that you have on the list to keep the menu organized and balanced. You can have a list of have a list of rules for your guests when they go to the website to register for what they want to bring and on the page it can list things like please take extra time so that you're not late for the event as we will start on time. For those who are bringing more food you could ask them to bring it in a Crock-Pot and that you will provide electricity those pain and cold food let them know that you will have ice buckets to put the food in and to seal accordingly. In the invitation, and give them the website to register what food did they would like to bring if any. I would also state on the invitation that you would request that they bring a dish to share if they are so inclined. Last but not least if you are asking guests to bring a dish then you absolutely positively do not request a honeymoon fund you do not have a money dance and you indicate on invitation that bringing a dish would be in lieu of the gift. I would also state that you weren't providing the main dish like a prime rib or shish kabobs and work around that main dish. This can save a lot of money but it's not about having your guests put the bill for your wedding it's about making sure that you were able to have all your guests there to celebrate this day. So anybody who wants to do this please do so and understand that if you feel it's okay the people that you are around probably feel it's okay too. I am a upper middle class woman who by no means is poor but I'm certainly not rich. However I did go up on potlucks and any family member or friend of mine who thinks it's tacky if I was to do a potluck or if they didn't come to my wedding because it was a potluck I wouldn't want to attend anyway. For those of you who didn't go because of the potluck shame on you if you're going just for the food you shouldn't have been invited anyway. Talk about spoiled entitled people. Good luck to all of you.

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I recommend that you check dates before you bump a zombie thread. The people you are so annoyed with posted on here almost seven years ago. That said, sorry but pot luck weddings are not appropriate unless a wedding is actually being co-hosted by volunteering community or family members. You don't properly dictate gifts or cooking in lieu of gifts. Lastly, finances have nothing to do with any of this. Host the wedding you can afford, even if it's just cake and something to drink.