So, I just received a wedding invitation.

Two cards to say where they're registered, but no stamps... Really?? I'm not including where I'm registering on my invite. I didn't think that was really a thing.

Sounds like ou made the B-list. Sweet, isn't it?

I'm guessing you didn't give and save the date either, did you?

Lmao that's what my sister said! She also received her invitation yesterday. We just had to laugh. We are friends of the groom, not the bride. So, we figure he didn't have much of a say and that's alright lol

@KM No, we didn't even get Save The Dates!

Not having the stamp is something I can relate to a little bit. I dropped our invitations off at the post office, got home and couldn't shake the feeling I was forgetting something, and then saw the role of stamps in the drawer and smacked my head at that one. At least it was an honest mistake, not intentional - but I still felt pretty bad about it.

But the B-listed thing and including registry info...yeah, not cool.

@Jesse's girl, oh no! I would feel guilty too! The stamp was more like another issue I had on top of everything. Not a big deal but I just had to share with ppl that might relate lol

Wow. We don't have an A and B list, personally, though I understand why some couples do. Still, if you're expecting people to RSVP by a certain date, you get your B list out sooner than that!

I was at a wedding yesterday but a friend of mine didn't go because this happened to her. She got an STD and everything but the invitation didn't come until 1 day before the RSVP deadline. She was upset (and rightfully so) to the point that even though the wedding was a day time wedding (she had an evening event) and right down the street from where she lives, she did not go. I honestly couldn't blame her. They did email RSVPs so she could have let them know in time, but her feelings were hurt. Plus, they included "monetary gifts only" on their invite and invited my married friend but gave her no plus one. There were so many etiquette violations, but it was still a beautiful wedding.

I understand as well. Especially, for those with large families. Both FH and I have small families so this isn't an issue. I will just have to contact the groom and decline with regret since I was given two days notice.

@Victoria Wow! Seems like someone will always have an issue with things like this, but if they paid a little more attention to details like that, there would be less awkward situations or hurt feelings.

Haha how infuriating! Honestly, that far into the game, it seems so much more polite to just call a person up and personally invite them.

I agree completely. I understand my friend not wanting to go and my married friend was pissed when she found out FH was invited (by name) as were some of our other friends' significant others. She'll probably never know though. That's the worst part.

When my cousin married recently, everything was so whirlwind it was a mess. Received the invites FIVE DAYS before the wedding itself, no stamp OR return address! We took a chance and sent it to her house. She had a friend do the invites for her, and she procrastinated. We weren't B-list, that I know. The whole wedding was so mish-mash it was exhausting.

Oh wow! That's crazy!!

Definitely sounds like you were B-listed! And who uses two cards to inform people of a registry?

It's possible that the post office was late in delivery OR that the invitations went out late. B list is also a possibility but I don't think it's the only possibility.

@Livelybride- They were post marked May 27. B list for sure lol

@BrendaP omg- that is crazy!

In the possible defense of some of the couples in your stories, I'll share my recent experience: I mailed my wedding invitations the first week of April with an RSVP-by date of May 20th (wedding is June 20th and I wanted a big buffer to do seating, etc). The week before 5/20 I found out a couple friends hadn't received their invitations yet. So, I reached out to the approximately 30-40 people on my list of 180 that I hadn't heard from just to make sure they had gotten their invitations and to remind them of the RSVP-by date.

Lo & behold, those 30-40 people (about 25 invitations altogether) had never received their invitations, courtesy of the shitty United States Postal Service. I had made the invitations myself to begin with, so with the few materials I had left I made as many more as I could and mailed those, and to the others I apologized profusely for the mishap and gave them the details. I certainly hope they understand they were not B list.

I had to extend my RSVP-by date to today (June 1st), and still haven't heard from about 5 people. Of course I can't blame them if they can't make it since they received the specifics so late (despite all of them receiving STD's in December).

It just makes me so upset that so many invitations somehow disappeared in the mail. I even applied the stamps inside the post office and mailed them there, not at some random corner blue box.

Kristen, that is awful! My guest list is small, so it will be easier to keep track of.