SO- am I having a PPD?!?!?!

I think it's fine. I don't think it's a PPD.

No you are meeting the official requirements met then being married in spirit by his uncle. Not a ppd at all.

Your fine! I think its sweet your being honest with your fam and doing the the right thing

I don't know where people come up with this stuff. Don't worry, you're fine.

I think what you've planned is totally 100% fine and I HATE the term PPD.

PPD is just a term made up by haters. Lol. What you are doing is 100% fine and I'd never call it that.

At the end of the day, who flippin cares? You are going to be radiant. FH is going to handsome. And you both are going to have a helluva good time!!

I agree with Amanda (no surprise there!) What you're doing would be fine by me as a guest. And I despise the term PPD.

Do what you want and if other people don't like it, that their problem. It doesn't sound like a PPD (I hate that term too) to me, it sounds like you're inviting those you love to celebrate your new marriage with you!

That term really is getting under my skin too.

YES and it's the worst thing ever and your marriage is doomed.

Or, you know, you're just having a lovely ceremony celebrating your marriage with the people you care about. Either one...

PPD opinions aside, I don't think your wedding even falls into that category to be disputed.

You're doing this all on one day, right? There are several faiths/cultures that do something similar. For example, I believe Mormons have a very private temple ceremony followed by a large celebration later in the day. Even if it isn't part of your religious protocol, nobody (not even those who campaign against so-called "PPD's") could lump you into that category.

I think, according to their "rules", there has to be a significant time gap between the legally binding ceremony and the big, white wedding (far more time than a few hours). That's certainly not what you're planning to do.

Okay my thoughts on this. I love this term. Only because I kind of feel like this is what a lot of women use it for....

When you get married in the vicinity of the date it's fine, we have live JOP

Is only open certain days... Yadda, yadda, yadda.

My issue is when the women get married like 4 months later and claims its not a renewal or anything like that and tricks her guests.. Sorry don't like liars... And if I'm ever invited to one like that ill turn down the invite cause it ticks me off that much. But like I said if you hide the fact you've done it yes it's a pretty princess day to me... If you do it the correct way I guess I'll be nice and call it a renewal of vows lol.

Yours I don't feel is an issue your in a 24 hour period

FH & I really want a NY marriage license but our venue is in NJ. We live in NY and can't take off work to go back and forth to apply for the jersey license. We are going to have the legal courthouse ceremony 11/8, have the rehearsal dinner that night and then have our special wedding ceremony 11/9. I don't look at it as being a PPD and I find the term offensive. Who is anyone to tell you that the day you get to celebrate your marriage is not as important as the day you got the legal stuff out of the day.

You are not having a PPD at all and if you wanted to do it every friggin month, that is your business lol

Don't worry you're fine.... I know a girl and a guy who were getting married planned the whole sha bang and the groom started to have panic attacks about getting married in front of everyone, so the right before at the rehearsal they got married with just those close to them and then had the "wedding" you're fine!

I had never heard of PPD until I read the thread yesterday. I think it's just crazy. In all reality isn't that what a lot of weddings are is to be the "princess" and who cares if its considered a big party and people come you are paying for it not them. As in your case no I don't think it is a PPD. But even if it was who cares!

Lmao @ you're in a 24 hour period. You're "safe" from the PPD cut off.

It's fine and I'm sorry you even had to make a post about it.

I posted on The Knot a long time ago asking if it was socially acceptable to do my vows in my childhood church where my parents got married. But then to do it again at a venue so my guests don't have to travel too much. Plus my church only holds like 40 people. They told me it was a fake wedding. So I'm scarred from two ceremonies haha.

I hate the term "PPD." It's extremely ignorant and blatantly disrespectful.

What Rev. Ann Fuller said!!!