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Small wedding invite writing

Lauren, on July 29, 2020 at 1:20 AM Posted in Planning 0 5

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So my fiancé and I have decided to have a small wedding. We’re looking at about 80 guests now instead of our original 170. We are having our wedding at a winery, so we decided that the minimum age to attend would be 21, except for our direct family members (siblings) since we have younger siblings. With that being said we also decided on no plus ones other than married significant others and/or 7+ years in a relationship together since we want this to be an intimate event. We want to word our invites correctly to make everyone aware of this without being rude or making anyone upset. It’s just that it’s our day and we really only want those that are truly close to us there. Does anyone have any prior experience to this or is anyone else doing the same thing and have any advice??!

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Latest activity by Sophia, on July 29, 2020 at 8:30 AM

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Ashley · on July 29, 2020 at 1:42 AM
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You would just address the invitation to those invited and only to them.
Of course, there’s no way to avoid upsetting people with this. Having a length of time requirement for including someone’s partner is rude no matter what. I personally wouldn’t attend a wedding where I couldn’t bring my significant other. Time really doesn’t have anything to do with how serious a relationship is, nor is it anyone else’s place to judge.
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Lauren · on July 29, 2020 at 1:55 AM
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We were originally going to have no ring no bring, but 7+ years is the length of a “common law marriage” so we extended this for our family members who never officially got married. We’re more concerned with having plus ones brought that we don’t know anything about, considering we’ve already had to cut non-immediate family members from our invites to accommodate our venue requirements. I just don’t think it’s rude under these circumstances, but you have a different perspective that I can respect. Thank you for advice on invites!
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Ashley · on July 29, 2020 at 2:47 AM
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A plus one is a different thing entirely. Partners aren’t plus ones, they are one half of a couple. Couples are social units. A plus one is a random date or friend. It’s totally fine to skip plus ones! Leaving out a committed partner, however, is a major etiquette no. I would be prepared for some to be upset about this.
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Kelly · on July 29, 2020 at 2:56 AM
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It’s actually a myth that if you’re with someone 7 years you’re common law married! Most states don’t acknowledge common law marriage and the ones that do there usually isn’t a length of time required you just have to consider yourselves married. As far as your question I would be upset if my significant other wasn’t invited. But if you’re set on this then I would address the envelope to exactly who is invited and write __ seats reserved in your honor. But be prepared for some hurt feelings.
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Sophia · on July 29, 2020 at 8:30 AM
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In normal circumstances leaving out your guests significant others could be considered rude. However, these aren’t normal circumstances. You have a clear rule for all your guests so stick to it! I’m sure your friends will understand that your grandma comes before their boyfriend. If they don’t, that’s their problem. My friends have all been very understanding of the situation.
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