Small dinner/reception ideas

Open Table has a list of restaurants with private rooms. You can search by location, cuisine, cost etc

First, we would need your budget. "Keeping costs down" is relative and for some people that means $3000 and for others that means $25,000. Additionally, it would be helpful to zero in on an area. Three states is a huge net to cast. It is unlikely you'll be able to do a ceremony at a restaurant for that amount of people. Also, if dancing is a must, keep in mind that in NYC, there's a law that there can't be dancing in any establishment that does not have a cabaret license which many restaurants don't.

We ran into a similar issue since our wedding was 73 people and we were too big for most restaurants and too small for many other venues. We live in Long Island but were looking on Long Island and NYC. I also didn't want anything that looked like a ballroom. We went with Deity in Brooklyn. It's a 3 story loft-like venue with lots of exposed brick, wood floors, etc. It's reasonably priced (relatively for NYC) and the minimum for a Sunday wedding was 75, which was perfect for us. They also include a DOC and a DJ (who was fantastic).

You might check out the historic King George II Inn in Bristol, PA. http://www.kginn.com