My fiancé and I were planning for a big October golf course wedding. It was going to be around 150 people, and cost $15,000-$20,000. Over the weekend we sat down and really discussed how a traditional wedding made us feel. My fiancé is more of a private person, and the thought of standing up in front of 150 people makes him really anxious. I’m worried about spending so much on a wedding for him to not be truly happy and comfortable!
We ended up having the idea of doing a private ceremony in my parents back yard. We’d only invite our parents and siblings, grandparents, and our three best friends. The ceremony would be short and sweet, just the traditional vows. We would then just go to a local hall (rental is $300 for the Saturday!!), and have a big party for the reception. It would be casual, non traditional, fun and low stress!
We are thinking of inviting around 100 people to the reception. Doing something like sandwiches, pizza, or pasta for food. Music played off our phones and speakers instead of a DJ. Nothing too fancy, but rather a big celebration. We are thinking of spending around $3000, a big differences from the original $15,000-$20,000.
Has anyone done anything similar? Did you regret not going the traditional route? Did you have any friends/family get upset for not being invited to the ceremony?
Please let me know your thoughts before we make such a big decision!!!