sister trying to outdo me at my own wedding?!!!

Double post.

Yeah I wouldn't like that. I went with all of my bridesmaids and they all chose a few dresses and all decided on one. You're the bride, you're allowed to have a say in the bridesmaid dresses.

It also seems like it would be an expensive dress, and if you're having other bridesmaid dresses, could they afford something like that?

I'd put my foot down and either go with all of your bridesmaids and have them all pick out a few they like and narrow it down, or choose a few on your own and show them their options.

For a garden wedding I would definitely go with short dresses for the bridal party. Maybe go with her and the rest of your group (if she is going to be a bridesmaid) and pick out the dress/dresses. I would definitely say no way on that dress! I looks like it could be a wedding dress.

Aside from the fact it could look like a wedding dress that dress would look flat out stupid for a park wedding and restaurant wedding! Take control on this one and choose her dress.

I will ask her to be a bridesmaid now. Though i am sure she will no i am only making her one so she wont show up looking like a bride at my wedding

As the bride, you have the ability to pick their dresses. Are all of your bridesmaids super skinny and able to fit nicely in that dress? Either way it goes. I'd be mad too. That's a definite "No" She's trying to look like the bride. Kindly let her know that she's already had her day, and now it's time for you, and that the answer is "NO" with no 'if's, ands or buts about it!!!! ;-)

My sister would not let up re: her specifications for what she was wearing as matron of honor, so I just decided to not have any bridal party. . . you may want to consider the same!

You should just select the dress yourself.

Amazing dress, but i think to avoid issues you should pick the dress and let her be ok with that like it or not. shes going to stand out and outshine you.

Amazing dress, but i think to avoid issues you should pick the dress and let her be ok with that like it or not. shes going to stand out and outshine you.

Amazing dress, but i think to avoid issues you should pick the dress and let her be ok with that like it or not. shes going to stand out and outshine you.

That looks like a wedding dress to me. I would not be cool with that.

Definitely pick their dresses! That's ridiculous it's your day, not hers!

I would have more of a problem with the silhouette than the color. This is way too close to bridal in my opinion

I would have more of a problem with the silhouette than the color. This is way too close to bridal in my opinion

I let my ladies pick their dresses BUT I picked the length and the colour and had veto power. It worked out well for us and they all found a dress they all loved and I love too. I'm sure even if she *tries* to upstage you, people will just roll their eyes and it'll look badly on her.

Well my thoughts seem to be in the minority but I say who gives a flying flip if she wants to look ridiculous at your wedding. Bottom line is, she could hire a marching band and trained elephants to make her entrance and you technically can't stop her.

Don't engage her any more. Every objection you have is fuel to her fire. If you've spoken your piece and she still wants to do what she wants, let her. Talk to your photographer and let them know what's up and just don't have her in as many pics. Don't talk to anyone about it that could repeat what you say to her, either... Remember, do not give her reasons to be "angry" or fight with you.

This is your day, not hers. Remember that... Control what you can (her behavior doesn't fall under that umbrella, BTW) and let the rest go.

If any of my family or friends attempted this, they would be out of my wedding. You do not, NOT, wear anything white or so light it looks white to a wedding! That's just rude.

Absolutely not!!! Pick their dresses! Her dress looks way too bridal! I say no. It's your wedding out your foot down-- she knows better!

Way too formal for a bridesmaid dress, I would tell her to pick something else or you'll do it for her.