Sister asking for Wedding Gift back.

It's rude for her to ask for it back. I wouldn't pay ish back.

Sorry but this really grinds my gears.

Would you give a KitchenAid mixer back after you used it? Would you give pots and pans or a knife set back after you used them?

Same idea. She gave you the cash for the wedding. You used it. I can't believe she has the audacity to ask for a gift back while you're covering HER expenses to come to YOUR wedding.

That's just insane to me.

If you're close and she didn't already explain it, I would ask her why, because that's not cool.

Wow....that's a first. IMO not very nice. I'm sorry, OP!

@La Grosera My sister and I have never had a very good relationship. We did not speak for the whole year FH and I were engaged. She is a very manipulative person, and I have chosen within our relationship to distance myself because of this. While to me, I am very upset about this, I am NOT surprised. Because this is how she works, she pulls things like this all the time.

ETA: We are paying for her hotel room because of her six hour drive. After our wedding day, I highly doubt I will be speaking to her anytime soon. Not just because of this.

It's hard to say why she's asking for it back. Maybe she's going by the "rule" that when you give cash it should be enough to cover you and your guest. Its pretty rude that she's asking for it back, but maybe she was stressed about the money from the start and now feels she could get you something else for less because of the smaller wedding. You have every right to be upset but I would say talk to her because she's your sister. You don't want to have a bad relationship with family over money.

I wouldn't give it back. If you do, I wouldn't pay for her to hotel to come to your wedding.

Extremely rude of her. I agree, give it back and absolutely don't pay a dime towards any costs she incurs for your wedding.

Since your footing her hotel bill and she's still invited to the smaller wedding it's really rude for her to ask for the money back.

I wouldn't be paying for shit for her. She's an adult, she can use the $200 she gave you and wants back to pay for her own damn hotel room.

Super rude and I would definitely not pay for her hotel room. It would be different if she was having a really hard time financially and talked to you about it, but that does not sound like what's happening.

I have never heard of such a thing. She sounds petty to me.

That's ridiculously rude. I'm with the others saying to give it back and not pay for her hotel room.

A gift is a gift! Your sister is being extremely rude! She shouldn't have given it to you in the first place if she was just going to take it back.

If it were me...I'd just give the $200 to keep the peace...family, ya know

ETA...and don't accept anything extra from her again (strings attached = no thanks)

Just give her the money if you are able to, if you haven't already told her you'd pay for her room then don't pay!

Rude as fuck, but I'd give it back.

Who does that?

It's rude as hell to ask for it back. But I'd sure as hell give it back... in the pettiest way possible. Dollar bills. Pennies. Government bond.

If someone chooses to attend a wedding, regardless of how far away it is (by car, train or plane) that is their choice and expense to pay. You should refund the $200 and not pay for any of her expenses. Period.

Are you still planning to pay for her hotel room?