Sister asking for Wedding Gift back.

Did you uninvite her?

Oh, no! Of course she's coming! We're paying for her hotel room to drive up!

You are under no obligation to give her the money back since it was technically a gift. I do think it's rude of her to ask for it back since she's still invited to the wedding.

It is rude AF of your sister to ask for her gift back, especially as you are paying for her hotel room. I would be the bigger person and give it back but I certainly wouldn't forget.

Does she now need the money for travel costs?

Wow...

Is there a potential reason she'd want it back? Like is her financial situation dire all of a sudden?

Otherwise I'd be super petty and give it back, but then also make her pay for her own accommodations and travel.

Yeah, she's being rude AF, that said I'd probably give it back to my sister just to keep the peace. I'd be salty AF about it though.

The very first thing a couple should do after cancelling a wedding is return all gifts. Though I've never read about what to do in your specific situation where a wedding isn't outright cancelled, but drastically reimagined. Gifts also shouldn't be expected if you do not host a reception, but they are often still given.

So the answer really depends on your sister's involvement in the second ceremony. Is she invited?

Give it all back in pennies. That's rude of her to ask! I would give it back but I would not forgive her

I don't think she would really need money for travel costs. It would be a six hour drive for her. So we both decided to pay for her hotel room, she would just need to pay for her gas to get there.

She's being rude and you have every reason to be offended. But, like you said, the best thing to do is just give it back. I'm honestly appalled that someone would act like that! If you haven't already offered to pay for her hotel room, I'd forego that!

That's odd... just give her the money back and move on ... is not worth it to try to mame sense of this... sorry!

Thank you everyone, for the feedback. She told me while I was work and I needed to take a second to understand wtf she just said. She'll be getting the money back once she comes to visit next weekend.

She's being rude but does her request have anything to do with your reasons for changing your initial plans?

If it's spent, it's spent. Once you give someone money as a gift, it's no longer your money. The end.

That's shitty on her part. I'm with Jennifer....give it back and pay for nothing for her.

No she's not wrong. She gave you this because your wedding was supposed to be bigger and more expensive. Now that you're having a smaller wedding, she wants this back and will probably get you something else. Many base gifts on the cost of the wedding.

She's in the wrong here. She gave you a gift, and now she wants it back? She really has no right to take back your gift, especially for a very, very petty reason. That is basically against the rule of gift giving. Do not give it back.

I wouldn't give it back. I know...keep the peace and all that shit but I don't think OP should have to be the one being nice/keeping the peace here when she's not even wrong.