Single Wedding Guest ?

I'm in the same boat as you. I made the decision that my single guests are not allowed +1 unless they ask me. My FH and I figured that if our friends were close enough to be invited to the wedding then we should know who they're dating and if they want to bring them along. Fortunately, this only applies to a handful of our guests.

I think as long as the singles will know some other people you don't need to and a guest. But I have a few friends (from say, work) that wont know anyone else, so I'm allowing them to bring a plus 1.

First of all, you should never invite more guests than you can afford to host properly. Secondly, you are not required to give plus ones to anyone. I have several single guests at my wedding. It's about my FH and myself. Weddings are not date nights and I will not allow people to turn it into one. I'm private and I keep my circle small. If I have not met you, then you cannot come.

@Edwina - love you're last statement!

Ya I plan on not giving singletons a date IF 1). I know they will know other people there and 2). if they are not traveling far..I feel like if they have far to travel one really should give a plus 1 for safety reasons, incase anything happened..but typically if a guest isn't dating anyone I doubt they would randomly ask someone to go to a wedding with them as that's usually seen as more of a steady couple thing to do.

I told my FMIL that if the single guest don't have a date. I could sit them all at the same table and maybe someone would hook-up. LOL j/k

Single people do not need plus ones. It's kind of rude of them to plan a date on your dime. We all know that (on average) a wedding guest costs the couple $100, or more. Sorry, I'm not spending $100 so you bring a complete stranger to a wedding.

Plus, it's really awkward for the guest. They know no one, and have to make small talk all night. As long as your guest knows other people who will be in attendance, they don't need a date!

I think Edwina said it best. I'm with her.....

I see it this way.. If they are married its a definite but if not I personally don't think its rude not to have them invite one guess.. At the end of the day its your wedding and you need to be surrounded by people who you want to share your special day with, not some random person. ALSO your paying per plate. I had this problem so this is what helped me and the FH decide. Even our family, if we don't speak until some one passes or a wedding comes up....your not invited.. Its not a get together or family reunion its a wedding not everyone can come and if they are single i dont think its rude not to have them invite at lease one person.. LOL you "hook-up" idea.. I LOVE lol

Im with Edwina! lol

Om-goodness!!!! I completely agree with you. I believe give the plus 1's to the married couples and the people in committed relationships. But im sorry im not going to pay for you to bring a random guy/girl to my wedding just so you not come stag. I mean HELL maybe you'll meet someone at the wedding!!!!

OMG I just asked FH and he said that it's rude to invite someone and not let them bring a date. He even gave an example of one of his friends that has a new girlfriend. He stated that it was dumb and tacky to not invite her. But I just expressed to him that neither one of us know her "Why would I invite her to our wedding just because this is his boo for today". We are starting to argue about it, so I don't know what I'm going to do . ugghhhhhh

Rule of thumb:

If they are engaged or living with their significant other, then a plus one is offered...

For singles you do not have to +1 for them....just dont seat them all at the same table as it can be awkward.

Since my guest list is family and very close friends. Only couples will be given a plus 1.

I actually have to good friends I have been trying to introduce forever so I will sit them near each other but they will be a mixed table. I'm arranging tables my common interest more so then age and what not. I want people to enjoy, relax and have good conversation getting to know people.

Also since most of my friends will be coming from OOT. Some do know each other from college, but most wont. I plan to have a casual get together before hand so people can get to know each other. We want our wedding to be FUN!