SIL Vent, passive agressive confusing girl

Waiting to know what she says...

I know, I don't understand why not!! And more pictures too!

I've always wondered how people end up like that...

Is this the same woman who won't let you or your parents stay at their house?

And she doesn't even give the referral...uh thanks, but I didn't ask for your opinion on the matter, if there is one day I can "fancy up", I think it's my wedding day.

She contacted my sweet Nana after she RSVP's "yes" to the Baby Shower saying "I really just sent the invite as a courtesy, it would be a waste for you to come all the way out here for a baby shower"

This is just within the last month..this does not include her disinviting my Nana to Thanksgiving (SIL's grandmother had personally invited her) saying there was "mis understanding" and they were keeping it small or her not posting ONE pic of our side of the family from the wedding out of her 70+ wedding photos on Facebook.

She is the most cold, distant person ever but then sometimes once in a blue moon will say or do something sweet and thoughtful which contradicts everything. I cannot figure this girl out for the life of me. Cont...

I swear my family has done nothing to this girl, we try to welcome her and we bite our tounges to avoid drama between her and my brother.

Yes Ana! She has said "No" to my parents staying there and has said "No" when my mom asks to talk to her on the phone when she's talking to my brother.

I know Bella! I would cry if someone did that to my mom and poor Nana!! Seriously!!

*SMH* People are just idiots. I am sure that it is hard to do, but I would just try and let it go. Crappy advice, but it sounds like she will never change...just come up with a really great nickname for her and you and your mom can start using it ;-)

My cousin is married to a woman like this. I hate to say it, but your mom should come to terms with the reality that she will not be seeing this kid regularly. It's really your brother who should be thinking about how he needs to discuss the situation with his wife. It's a shame that he lets her treat your family like this.

That's the thing, is she is actually always nice to me personally (though it seems phony) but the way she treats my mom and Nana just pisses me off. We are not an over bearing family, we totally give them their space (we all live hours away!)...I know I will keep my mouth shut for now (and vent to you guys) but I can't promise that one day after a few drinks I might blow my lid and give her a piece of my mind!

Wow! I cannot believe people act like that. And how rude towards your mom and your nana, that is awful!

My uncle from my stepfather's side married a woman like that and unfortunately it didn't last. The breaking point came when he stood up to her and said, this is my family, our family and they will treated with the same respect that they treat you.

I'm very careful when I say that when you get married you marry the family because in some sort of way you do. But that does not excuse bad behavior towards the new wife or the other way around. That's is terrible behavior on her part.

I think everyone is allowed one drunken conversation! :-)

It is, and it's terrible that my brother has no backbone. I would have never pegged him as someone like that either...oh well!

Ugh my brothers wife and your brothers wife could be BIFFs. There isnt enough room here for me to give the MANY examples..let me just say she is the most passive aggressive rude hypocritical phony in the world. She married my brother when I was 12 ansd they moved to Ohio (we're from NY) and blimp! that was it! barely hear from them, but when we do..its obnoxious. shes going to be a pastor now, theyre such 'good christains' but when my mother broek her knee 2 years ago on thanksgiving while they were visiting she says to my mom"dont expect me to feel sorry for you or help out around the house..i'm on vacation'. b***h! anyway, we have a problem now where the second we anounced our wedding date they automatically told us that they 'cant' make it to the wedding. uhm really? but now just my brother might come- however we didnt ask him or her to be in the wedding party whereas my other brother and his gf are in the BP...so drama ensues.

Umm.. I am completely speechless. I can't believe acts that way! I really don't know what to tell you

The way to look at it tho is not so much as being upset with her, i mean maybe she was raised by wolves in a cave. your brother however should know better.

@mallory, isn't family fun?! That's the craziest part though is that she is the one here who supposedly comes from "a good family" she is very religious as well and grew up with nannies and money, went to Ivy league school etc. I guess it's because she was spoiled and has always gotten her way? That's why it gets really touchy is because we assume she acts this way because she thinks she's better than us. At least I know to introduce strangers and offer someone in my home a drink!

Yes, he has to know, he's not blind. I can only assume that he's trying to make his home as happy as possible (by submitting to her). We did have one conversation about how she isn't very "inclusive"...it's like red carpet VIP to get an invite to their house or a family function. He says she is "shy". When I got engaged my brother was the only one in either family against it. I think this is because he regrets his choice in marriage.

Oh, totally. I always compare it to "Meet the Fockers", you should have seen the look on her aunt and grandmothers faces the one time we were all together for a dinner and they asked me what classes I was taking and I included "Human Sexuality" in the list.

Ok, vent over for me, strangely that actually lifted a weight off my shoulders. Thanks for the support ladies and good luck Mallory with that nasty bish at the wedding

Oh thanks girl. good luck to you as well! question tho- is she an only child? my SIL is and i think thats sort of the problem as well....maybe she doesn 'understand' how families and siblings work.