Sick Bridesmaid!

Who is holding the dress?

She has the dress, and she's very tall and skinny...no one else I would have stand up in her place is able to fit into the dress.

Well then go without her, I hate to say it but you and I are both in the time frame that if someone backs out or gets sick and cant make it then your just without a bridesmaid.

You'd be amazed at what a seamstress can do, i've had to have a dress taken out before (i am also tall and skinny, but couldn't breath in the damn thing), so it might not hurt to see how much the dress could be taken out...

I'd hate to be your backup BM. If she is sick, then you are down a BN. Ihope she gets better though.

Ummm the doctors dont know whats wrong with her and your worried about the bridesmaid situation. i dont know if this is out of line but, uh isnt she like your freind? shouldnt you be worried wether or not shell be ok? if shes quarintined its sounds serious. I hope shes ok... or they make her ok...

I would not try to replace her. You picked her to be in your wedding because of who she is and what she means to you. If someone not in the wedding party knows both of you, maybe have that person holding her bouquet and walk down the aisle for her, then place the bouquet on an empty chair which could be placed where she would have been standing/sitting during the ceremony. Kind of a... "Here, if only in Spirit" kind of gesture.

Dont replace her, just go without and if you want, you could wait till almost the wedding to print programs (if you are doing them) and add a note at the bottom saying your bm was unable to make it, but is here in spirit or something like that.

like pp, I would hate to be a replacement bm 3 wks before the wedding. I would feel like you just wanted my warm body rather than me.

I'm with Ayla - what if she's seriously ill? Is her bridesmaid status really what's important?

Here's hoping she gets well soon. And I wouldn't worry about replacing her just yet - it's amazing how much you can rally for a friend. I was in a friend's wedding with the flu a few years back.

If she can't attend, you are out a bridesmaid and make it work. BUt before you get married, or after- you mail her a get well card, or send flowers or somethign to show her your support!

I agree- it's a bit selfish to be thinking of what you'll do if she's sick when that is something she has no control over. This girl is obviously important enough to be chosen to be in yur wedding party. Her health is much more important than you possibly having an uneven bridal party.

I agree with the above posts that you should primarily be concerned with your friends health.

But reality is that you also have to deal with the wedding. Personally I would just be short a BM, all the attendants can walk up alone so there is no lone grooms men walking awkwardly.

I would also honor her at the ceremony like anyother BM, while you may get extra questions, I would still inlcude her in the program book and say a prayer for her quick recovery during the ceremony if it is in a mass.

In Beth's defense, this IS a bridal forum. I am sure she didn't smack her friend across the face with a "Damn what about my wedding," when she found out that she was sick. This place is reserved for all things wedding, right? Maybe she's worried sick for her friend, but this is a place to post her concerns about her wedding.

I know this sounds bad, but I have a friend who asked if she could be a back-up bridesmaid. She reminds me of the movie 27 dresses but she's married. She's literally in everybody we know's wedding- and she knows that sometimes this kind of thing happens so she wanted to be there for me just in case.

I don't think that it's a huge deal (My mother's bridesmaid had the flu and couldn't make it and my parents are still happily married 22 years later) But if you're absolutely adamant that it needs to be even on each side, then I'd find a back up bridesmaid.

Thank you Tiffany.

Of course I am concerned about my friend, but as this is a forum about weddings, I was just merely asking for advice on what to do if my friend was not able to be in the wedding.

I was actually talking to this friend today and she suggested just having my second bridesmaid (out of 3) escorted by the last two groomsmen to avoid having a guy walk down the aisle by himself. As for everything else, we could work out as it comes.

Thank you to everyone who has given ideas and not just ripped me a new one for not caring about my friend.

Beth, you are right, this is a bridal forum. I'm sorry if I came off as judging.