I am looking for a little advice. I have been with my FH for the last 7+ years and have been engaged for almost 3. I am 25 working with a manufacturing plant as an engineer and have held this job for a couple years. He moved with me from our hometowns to my job location but he has been unable to find a job in the area. He has effectively been unemployed since we moved. Instead, he has been a stay at home fiancée who does all the housework and has continued to job hunt as well. Now, he is working on joining the Army (not just for financial reasons, it has also been a dream of his since before we met). Right now he does not qualify to join because of his weight but he is working on that.
We have discussed moving up our wedding so we are married when he leave.
I, personally, am nervous about being up the idea of getting married with my parents. They just cannot get past the idea that he has not worked in 2 years. But they did admit to me that if roles were reveres (I stay at home and he supports us both) that they would not have an issue.
What I am wondering is, 1. is it better to be married before he joins the military and 2. does it seem like we are rushing into this?