Should we tell our siblings we are eloping???

That's a hard one. I'd be heartbroken if my brother did that and didn't tell me, and he would be heartbroken if I did that to him. It's hard to say about how other people would react.

You want only parents, so I'd say only do parents. You do what you want.

We had planned a wedding and then decide to ELOPE who what some people call have a "micro wedding" instead and 6 months earlier than planned. We told our families and friends and just said, sorry this is what works for us and what we want to do. Our parents were completely supportive and our family and friends understood. They all made some jokes but it was all good in the end. And it was the best! no regrets...except 1...we brought our dog with cause he was the best man, and we ended up having him stay at our cabin instead of giong to the wedding site because we heard there was bears etc...i was worried for him, so i regret not having him come to the site because it would have been fine..i did get one photo at home though with him in his best man outfit and I still have it, so I can do some photoshop later if needed, ha!

GOOD LUCK!

I understand your situation, we really reallllly wanted to elope and FH would have just done it, but I wanted my parents there and I just felt so bad not telling my siblings, so we are having a micro-wedding with 16 guests total. I didn't really expect my siblings to come, but I felt like they would be mad if I didn't at least tell them, and once I told them, I just could not bring myself to not invite them... and now they're all coming. There is drama on FH's side, so he ended up not inviting anyone except his sister and one cousin. I don't have any advice, just wanted to commiserate.

I strongly urge you to be upfront about your decision. You don't have to invite your siblings, but not to tell them at all is a slap in the face. My sister recently had a courthouse wedding, which she tried to keep secret. She didn't tell anyone including our parents. They were married on Sunday and the truth came out on Tuesday when I looked up their marriage license online. There were a lot of hurt feelings exacerbated by the fact that she had been actively deceptive about the marriage when asked. I honestly don't believe that you'll be able to keep it a secret, no matter how careful you are and I think it's very likely to blow up. I don't know your family, so maybe it'll go down differently for you. If you really don't want to invite them, that's absolutely fine. But I think a sibling deserves to have that decision explained to them.

My advice is.... If you are going to elope - then don't tell anyone and elope. My niece and I have been "best friends" our entire life. They planned a wedding and asked me to officiate, then decided they were going to elope. They ended up getting married by a judge, yesterday and invited her mother to be the witness and, then the judge told them they need a second witness, so at the last minute she called a friend who lives in the same time and asked them to be the 2nd witness. My sister just told me today all about the wedding. Had they gone away and just eloped I wouldn't feel excluded or hurt, but - the fact they picked and chose, who to invite at the last minute is insulting ( I get why she didn't call me I live 2 hours away) but - of anyone in my life --I would never imagined, that I wouldn't be at her wedding. We have been so close for so long, and it really hurts. Knowing they were going to elope, and not being asked to be a witness or attend made, it feels like a deliberate exclusion. I won't let it come between us, but it's really hard to be happy about it.