Should we buy extra meals?

If the friend doesn't know if the GF is coming or not, I'd say, "At this point, we have to get numbers in to the caterer and the seating chart done, so if you're still not sure, I'm going to have to count her as a no and we won't be able to accommodate for her."

Same for other people -- if they RSVP'd no and something changes, they should CALL YOU. Don't have seats for them and that should be a clue. Same for not RSVPing for a plus one. They had their chance to respond accurately, anything else should require a phone call and approval from you, otherwise, you aren't a psychic.

If you want to be nice, maybe 5 extra meals. But even then, if you have any last minute drop outs/no shows, you'll already have extra meals.

I wouldn't,I would announce that the number are in and no more guest can attend.

Hmmmm maybe talk to your venue....I know some venues will have them prepared already/have no problem preparing extra (they'll just charge you later)...maybe that would be the better route?

Good thinking Reenski, I just feel like if people have issues even RSVPing, who knows what could happen day of!

I'll have to email them Rachel, I'm sure they've had others in the same situation.

We had the same questions. We worked out a number just over our confirmed headcount (to include John/Jane Doe that are iffy but want to come) and she also said that if someone unexpected shows up and weren't accounted for, she will have an extra table and settings and we can cut a check for the extras if necessary after. While I'd hate to do that, it's nice to know there are plans in place just in case something comes up.

I would talk to your caters about that. We were told when we were talking about plate dinners that they will have extras on hand.

People do not think about all the details that go in to a wedding. it is very frustrating! Btu i would advice you to order some extra meals. You never know who will show up and sometime accidents happen and sometime dinner may end up on the floor. It would be embarrassing for you to run out of food.

If that happens, then they're rude and that's their problem -- the person they shouldn't have brought won't have a meal. Don't shell out extra money just in case someone decides to be a jerk.

(But honestly, most caterers do make a little extra food, just in case something like this happens, 'cause they've seen it all before. So don't worry about it, and don't add to your headcout -- it'll be fine.)