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Gemma
Super May 2011

Should we announce a Dry Wedding

Gemma, on July 5, 2010 at 8:26 AM Posted in Planning 0 20

We have decided to have a dry wedding for a number of reasons (both personal and cost) and because we are doing a Sunday, lunch wedding, we didn't think that it would be too much of a problem. On our wedding websight, do you think we should somehow mention that its a dry wedding, or would this start people complaining even before they show up? Do you think people might try to bring their own?

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Latest activity by jiemo, on October 16, 2010 at 5:10 AM
  • Sharon
    Master June 2010
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    it's a Sunday lunch wedding i think you're fine, the most i would expect is a glass of wine with dinner or a champagne toast. I wouldn't worry about announcing it

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  • ♥ Elizabeth Nicole ♥
    Master May 2011
    ♥ Elizabeth Nicole ♥ ·
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    I wouldn't worry about announcing it as well. If you feel like it's going to be an issue to/for your guests, then putting it in the reception info on your website may not be a bad idea. However, IMO I don't think it's necessary to tell them anything.

    A little side note: For some reason, FH forgot that we were having alcohol at our wedding (duh!?) and we never decided that. We considered it, but it's a nighttime wedding and we get to bring our own alcohol so we're doing beer and wine and probably a specialty drink. Anyway, so he forgot we were doing that and he told his sister (who gets drunk at weddings) that we were having a dry wedding and so she asked him if he would be offended if she "slipped" in some alcohol with her. Seriously!? You have to have alcohol to have fun!? Anyway, if you tell your guests, you may have them doing this.

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  • Michelle
    Expert September 2010
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    IMHO most people should expect a Sunday lunch wedding to be dry. Last time I went to one I was pleasantly surprised to be offered some wine, but did not expect it.

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  • He-Gives-Me-Butterflyz
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    He-Gives-Me-Butterflyz ·
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    I don't think it's ever necessary to inform your guests of this, but especially since it's a Sunday lunch wedding. If you let them know in advance, you may have some who choose to sneak in their own or just find that some will complain about it.

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  • Ryan
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    We're having a Saturday evening dry wedding, and it never occurred to me to announce it...it won't be a problem for us, since everyone is either family or close friends, but hypothetically speaking, if people were upset that my party didn't have any alcohol, then they could take their party elsewhere.

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  • \m/ ^ ^ \m/
    Super September 2010
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    Yea I wouldn't announce it. We are announcing that ours is a Bar but not open, they've got to buy themselves. But we only put that announcement in the few people we know that requested that we have alcohol. His grandmother will flip her top if she gets a note in a wedding invite that said that. LOL. So, mainly just cousins we sent the notice to so they know to bring cash for themselves because our Bar is old school and doesn't have an ATM machine. LMAO.

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  • Alison
    Devoted July 2010
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    I wouldn't announce a dry wedding. I agree that some people may try to sneak in alochol, which is rude and disrespectful to you, and will probably just upset you.

    It's good to announce cash bars, but only because your guests will need money to purchase alcohol, and you don't want them to come with no money, but a dry wedding is a dry wedding and I think there is no point announcing it.

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  • binx
    Master August 2010
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    Not to steal your post but I have the same question... our cash bar will start at 7pm, after cocktail hour. We are serving beer & wine though. There's an atm close to the restaurant where the party is being held but I feel awful. Like Gemma said, we're having the cash bar because of financial reasons. How should we mention that, if at all?

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  • binx
    Master August 2010
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    Oh & since its a Sunday lunch, I don't see why you should announce it. Seems silly to me. Why would there be a ton of drinking during lunch? when does your party start?

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  • Dianne
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    No need to announce anything. I know that since our weddinig will be in a local park and alcohol is not allowed, it won't be an issue for us, thank goodness!

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  • Courtney
    Dedicated September 2010
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    I've been wondering the same thing! I recently found out that 2 of my bridesmaids and a few other friends are planning on sneaking their own in...which really makes me mad because they know my reasoning behind having a dry wedding. You would think your bridesmaids would be supportive, but I guess not. I hope that everything works out okay with you! I wouldn't tell anyone because you can see what happens when you let people know beforehand. Good luck!

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  • Meghan
    Master August 2011
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    There is no need to set up a billboard saying "We're not having alocohol!" However, if you are having a sit down luncheon, it might be nice to post the menu or choices, including beverages (coffee, tea, lemonade, sodas, etc) that will be available.

    And for the bridesmaids- put your foot down. Tell them you woudl love to have them in attendance, but bringing in alcohol is not acceptable, and quite rude and will not be tolerated on your day when this is something that is very important to you!

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  • Courtney
    Dedicated September 2010
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    @Meghan I know that I really need to talk to them. I'm just worried about them getting angry at my other friend because she is the one who told me about it and I don't really wanna start anymore drama, but I know that you're right!

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  • DreamComeTrue
    Master June 2011
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    Nope, I do not tink it's necessary at all for the same reasons posted!

    @ Courtney that's ridiculous! IDK why some ppl act like its the end of the world if there is no alcohol at the wedding.

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  • starlette7886
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    The only ones who you should tell are the rude ones (like in my experience) who called me as soon as they figured out my husband and I were having a vow renewal to say that they "couldn't wait for the bar" because I used to be a bartender, and they knew my signiture drinks would be awesome. It shocked the daisies out of them to know that 1) I no longer drink since commiting my life to Christ and 2) I was having a dry wedding.

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  • FMS, the barefoot wife!
    Master August 2010
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    @ the OP, I think if you let your Bridal party and parents knwo that it's dry, any inquiring guests will then find out, other than that, no need to announce it..

    @ binx you could just put on your wedding websire under the reception part "Cash Bar' that's what I did..

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  • Gemma
    Super May 2011
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    Thanx everyone for your comments and advice! I think we are only going to tell people if they ask. I know that my friends are huge drinkers including one of my bridesmaids. I am hoping she doesn't bring her own because I think its really tacky and sad that you can't enjoy a friends wedding without alcohol.

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  • Brandi ♥'s Chris
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    We are doing the same thing...no alcohol at our wedding. We just know how "some people" in our femily get when drinking and honestly don't want the stress and drama on our big day. I know that some people will definately not like this at all. We are posting it on our wedding web site just to give people a heads up. The sad thing is, we are already hearing people talk crap about it and the wedding is a little under two years away.

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  • binx
    Master August 2010
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    FMS: good idea! thx :-D

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  • P
    Dedicated May 2011
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    Be comfortable with your decision and do not announce it or apologize to anyone. Your guests are recipients of your hospitality and the hosts can do whatever they like. Our caterer said that people will eat or drink whatever you put in front of them. Select what you like for your own reasons and worry about something else. For the ones complaining, too bad about them. :-)

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