Should the bride/groom help each other when paying for wedding bands?

Why does it matter? Unless you are keeping separate finances even after you get married, it is both your money. I also don't think it's a good thing to treat it like keeping score. You bought that and I paid for this and this so you need to pay for something else to make it even, is not good for any relationship. I also don't think it's fair for just the groom to buy them, since they are supposed to represent your feelings and commitment to each other not just his to you know what I mean? Just IMO.

We have a joint bank account so the money, regardless of who actually picks it out, is coming from the same place.

I'm of the mindset that its both your money, it doesn't matter who ultimately pays for it. But also, I can see the other way, because I want to be able to pay for his ring myself since it'll be like the last major gift I will give him before we are totally joined, so for me its a pride thing (though I don't mind helping him!) I'd say if your both ok with helping each other out there is no problem!! It doesn't matter what other people think

Same here... it's "OUR" money.... so it is all coming from one account...

We have separate accounts, and will be keeping it that way. We have way to many married friends who constantly fight over 'who spent what' and weve never had any problems, if its not broke, why fix it? As for the rings, this is my FH second engagement. He bought the first ring at Kays and they let him return it as long as he bought so much.... so he got all 3 rings at the same time. He pays for it. If we were strapped I would help him out, but right now, thats his payment.

We already have joint accounts so there's no "he paid, she paid" in our wedding planning. Both of our rings were custom orders so we each dealt with our own ring order. If you are particular about your ring or want to spend significantly more than FH is comfortable with then you may need to buy your own ring, but remember that money is a huge source of potential marital conflict so you should definetly discuss post-wedding financial expectations with each other.

Mine arrives today! Hopefully his is en route soon!

Sure why not? You are joining together and the bands are a symbol of that...why should it be separate?

I think it doesn't matter who buys what and when...we have joint accounts, but we also maintain separate accounts for each of us in the event there is something special we want to get for the other and don't want the other to necessarily know how much we spent or the details of it, especially if its a surprise. I'm having a budoir shoot next week...FH won't know about this until September, but if I pulled it from our joint account he'd want to know what it was for especially since its a large amount of money. We are one, but as our officiant told us last night in pre-marital counseling, its still important to maintain a little independance.

At the end of the day, I think its healthy to discuss big purchases like rings and to not "keep score" as others have mentioned.

We share money, but just to be symbolically romantic, I ordered his and he ordered mine. We got them from two different places, so that worked. But money-wise, it didn't matter.

I agree with the Ladies, it shouldn't matter who pays for what. My FH did pay for my rings and I paid for his, but it worked out that way because he didn't want me see what the price of my rings because I was stressing about how much they would be and kept telling him not to pay too much (it was Christmas time, and we have three little people to spoil). Eventually I saw the price anyway. I bought his ring because I had an extra chunk of money after income tax. We do have a joint account, but I'm super strict on what gets paid out of it, I gotta make sure the bills are paid and we have a roof over our heads!!

I don't think it matters. I helped him pay for my ring he helped me pay for my cats vet bill.

Everything is already joint and has been for years so it's already "our" money as it will always be. So we both paid for my engagement ring and we will both pay for our wedding rings.

Same story here, we combined our money into one bank account so it's all "our" money anyway.

He bought all 3 rings before he even proposed! He got me a set because he had just heard about the problems one of my friends was having to get a wedding band that matched and fit with her engagement ring. While he was picking out my rings, he saw a ring for himself that he liked and bought it. He said that he got a great deal since he bought 3 rings at once. I am kinda sad that I didn't get to help pick out any of the rings, but it is also nice to not have to worry about it.

After having lived together 3 yrs our money is our money We split everything.Sometimes I have more money, sometimes he does. Working together is key

Thanks for the tips! We will be having joint accounts as well. I was just curious as to what others were thinking! I have found the wedding band, and we got him sized yesterday, so we will be able to start looking around! So excited!

I paid for the wedding and he paid for the rings. It was just our way to even it out even though it is pretty much both of our money! Financially the cost was about the same.

*we have separate bank accounts but we never fight over money anyway... we just make sure everything is in the budget!

We have separate accounts & always help each other out, which works for us. But, FH bought all 3 of the rings! I could have more than helped with both of our bands [which I tried] but for him, it was about the pride & the 'romantic' gesture on his part :].

He bought mine as a set when we got engaged and paid for it all, and his ring was included for free. I did buy him one he will love though but I'm keeping it a surprise until I put it on his finger. He will be so happy. He paid over $3000 I paid less than $100. I just wanted it to be from me, not something he got for free. We currently have separate bank accounts and a joint one for wedding stuff.