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Stephanie
Savvy September 2021

Should i postpone? 9.19

Stephanie, on May 15, 2020 at 6:46 PM Posted in Community Conversations 0 17
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Okay as many brides here im freaking out...i’ve read alot of the posts & i see some are postponing, some are holding tight. For me, we had a hard time getting our venue to agree letting us get a postponement date since they said they werent doing it for September brides just yet. So now that they finally gave us a new date ( a friday which im not tooo happy about but at this point willing to do) to think about im second guessing myself 🙄, i will note we are in NY & getting married in Long Island. My venue says they strongly believe they will be fully operating by then, im just not sure how comfortable everyone will be (150 guests) & i dont want to cut down my list (which they said I probably wont have to) so, should i postpone to September 2021? Or more so would YOU be comfortable attending the event? Or should i listen to my venue and hope for the best? I know moving the date seems more logical.. i just dont want to regret it later on if things do end up getting better 😫 thanks in advance!

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Latest activity by Jillian, on May 18, 2020 at 4:50 PM
  • K
    Devoted August 2020
    Kate ·
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    Will they let you keep the date for now and hold the date in 2021, or do they need a decision now? Personally, I’d hold off a little bit longer to decide, as I think the next month will be very telling as to how things will play out. As a guest, I would feel comfortable attending, absolutely, but I know a lot of people on here wouldn’t agree with me. We are holding tight for an August wedding in Wisconsin and are basically just trying to see if we’d have to lower our guest count. We are going to make a decision mid-June. Fingers crossed for you! At least you know you have a backup plan in case you need it! Hopefully that brings you peace.
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  • Stephanie
    Savvy September 2021
    Stephanie ·
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    Thank you so much Kate, you’re right ima ask if they can hold that date for me.. didnt even think of it! Im trying to hold on for my date so hopefully we will get clarity soon! Thanks again & good luck to you!
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  • Natalie
    Beginner October 2020
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    My fiancé and I have set our date for 10.10 this year. We’re optimistic it can happen, but we’re also not putting all of our eggs in the “it will happen” basket, cause then it will be super hard if we postpone. We set our date to decide what to do as July since we don’t know what social distancing guidelines will be like that far out but we don’t want to wait until the last minute to pull it, cause I think that will just be hard to try and secure a summer 2021 date. Hopefully there will be some guidance by then
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  • Kathryn
    VIP August 2020
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    I would hold off making a decision just yet, like Kate said. Our venue in Texas announced today that their June weddings are going ahead with adjustments, so we feel pretty good about our smaller affair in August. The next month will tell just how bad things are, and there really is no telling right now. I say take a breath and let things shake out a bit more. You would hate to move it only to have things be decent enough for a wedding by that point.
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  • Stephanie
    Savvy September 2021
    Stephanie ·
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    Thats how i feel! For our sanity i hope we do get that clarity soon, good luck to you ❤️
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  • Stephanie
    Savvy September 2021
    Stephanie ·
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    Oh great! I hope things work out for you, i am feeling much better hearing outside perspectives, i think i will wait a bit longer, hopefully they can hold that 2021 date just incase. thank you for your advice! 😊
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  • Reena
    Expert February 2021
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    Hi Kathyrn


    Out of curiosity, what are the adjustments being made in Texas?
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  • Jill
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    Seeing recent predictions (WHO) that this will last 2-5 years until a vaccine is available and distributed, social distancing will be a new norm until then whether we have weddings this year or next. I think at this point brides need to decide how important the ceremony vs, marriage. It's a heartbreaking decision with no guarantees either way as far as keeping with this year's date or postponing.
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  • Rebecca
    Master August 2019
    Rebecca ·
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    Honestly, as someone in the NYC metro area, it's really hard to tell. LI is doing better than the city, but because you're so linked with said city... I don't know if you'll open up faster than us. Maybe only slightly?

    Your best bet is to follow the phases and metrics that NY state has laid out - they're super detailed and helpful, and CT and NJ are following them, as well, so we don't reinfect each other.

    Mostly, it's just: Have a Plan B, be flexible, and don't make decisions until you *have* to.

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  • Kathryn
    VIP August 2020
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    So according to our venue, social distancing is indeed the new norm. The governor is having venues run at 25% occupancy, so we may have to cut our guest list because that includes vendors. And we already had about 50 people. No more than 6 folks per table for the reception, masks will be required, and for the ceremony there will be staggered seating as possible to keep families apart. But as Jill said, this is probably our new normal for now. We want to get married, so we'll make those sacrifices.
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  • Reena
    Expert February 2021
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    Thanks


    I wish we would have guidelines for the state. Our venue hasn’t given us any clue just yet for the reception because it’s this weird gray zone.
    Our venue has canceled all weddings through June. Our wedding is in July. I hope if we need to postpone the venue will just make the call.
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  • Danielle
    Expert November 2020
    Danielle ·
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    Wait till July and see how things go.

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  • Danielle
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    But have a back up plan too.


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  • Lynnie
    WeddingWire Administrator October 2016
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    Hi Stephanie! Looks like you've got a good plan right now to ask your venue about what's required to hold a back-up date!

    Here are a few other discussions about fall weddings in the NY area you can check out as well if it's helpful to see how other couples are feeling locally:

    September brides- Ny!!

    (New York) October 2020 Brides — when will we say i do?

    Sept Brides, how ya feeling?
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  • J
    Dedicated August 2021
    Jillian ·
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    Fellow LI bride! Our venue put a two-week hold on a backup date for us while we decided (we did have to postpone our July wedding to August 2021).

    If you can, you may want to wait and see if Cuomo extends the stay-at-home order again. I've read that, if all goes well, it will take approximately 8 weeks for large gatherings to be allowed after LI enters phase 1 of reopening. So, right now, that would be mid-August. But if he extends it again, you may be cutting it close.

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  • Stephanie
    Savvy September 2021
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    Thats what im worried about! I hate the unknown but for now i guess ill have to wait it out & see what happens.. they arent trying to give us the date we want even though its available which is making this even harder but ima just have to come to terms that if the 19th isnt possible im going to just go with what i can get. Thanks for your input ❤️
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  • J
    Dedicated August 2021
    Jillian ·
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    The unknown is the absolute worst, and it's awful that venues aren't being accommodating. I understand how businesses work, but when you do events as sensitive and personal as weddings, you really have to have that customer-first mentality. Good luck to you!

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