So my sister is getting married in a couple months, and in the planing she kept looking for a young grl to be the flower girl, but no luck, most were to big or to small, so we went on a dress fitti g and I had to take my 5 Y/O son love his aunt and she was talking about jow she re3wanted to have a flower girl droping petals down the aisle, my son gat really excited and asked if he cloud do that part because it sounded very fun and important for my sister, she said, well but for that you need to wear one of this prdresses , you know? trying to discurraging him ,but he got more excited, and said yes, I llve it, and grabing the flower girl dress held it i. front of him asked, how do I look? my just said well, we'll think about it, but thank tommy for wanting to help, that qas two week ago, and he keeps asking almost every day in his aunt will let him be the flower girl, should I let him, he is very handsome with medium legth hair, he wouldmake a very pretty girl, please advice, thank you
I'm sorry, is this a joke? I honestly can't tell. There is nothing, at all, inherently gendered about the act of dropping flower petals at a wedding. It's kind of a silly tradition that remains so rigid that only girls can do this and boys, instead, can only hold signs or a fake ring holder.
That said, I don't understand the bit about your son needing to wear a dress and the fact that he would make a pretty girl. Why on earth would a dress be required to drop flower petals??
Now, I also don't think it's a big deal for a boy to wear a dress, but only if he actually wants to (like, only if it were his idea; not if he were talked into it because someone thinks flowers cannot be dropped from the hand of a dress-less child). This is why I can't decide if this is a joke post or not.
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THIS! I cannot comprehend why on earth your son would be required to wear a dress in order to drop flower petals down an aisle. he’s obviously very excited about the role. I would certainly let him be the flower PERSON & let him wear whatever he truly wants.
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Absolutely! He’s NOT required to wear a dress. Let him wear an outfit and be a flower boy. Perhaps instead of a basket he could hold a box or wooden treasure chest.
I agree with Maggie and Chrysta.
I get that your sister was trying to discourage him wanting to have the role of flowers “girl,” but little kids don’t think the way adults do. They are still learning the gender roles that are so ingrained in most adults they don’t even think twice about it.
He can be a flower boy, dude. I was one when I was like 7 for my aunt's wedding, I wore a suit with a tie in the color of the petals they chose to distinguish me from the ring bearer. If he wants to wear the dress that's fine but he doesn't HAVE to. There ain't no wedding police checking genitals at the door.
I mean a solution is to either nix it or have someone like the florist predrop the flowers. I nixed it from mine due to high wind and the florist advised against it.
Have him wear a nice suit and drop flowers from a basket, fedora or top hat
Have him wear the dress as envisioned
But this is somewhat the bride's call... The bride is kinda the one that will have the decision come back to their attention the most... Of course, make sure the decision doesn't hurt your kid more than just rejection and is in their best interest.
Personally I would do nix it or make it flower boy.
You don't have to pretend he's a girl! If he wants to drop the flowers, let him. If he wants to wear a dress, let him do that. But you don't have to dress him up, curl his hair and say, "I guess we have a daughter now," because he wants to be in your sister's wedding and she couldn't find a child who is an actual girl to do it before your son volunteered.
Sorry o if the post created so many people to be upset, you have no idea what I've been through for the last few weeks, thank you for all thatvare trying to help, I'm still trying to deal with this situation.
We had "flower children", my husband's niece & nephew. Our venue didn't allow them to throw petals so they carried a sign but if they could, I would have let them both do it. We also had a dog as my MOH haha no one seemed to mind either. Their mother picked their outfits, we paid for them. Also please excuse the only guest in shorts & flip flops at our formal wedding that decided to take an aisle seat hahahaha
Hi, we got married abiut ten years ago, and my wife had a flower girl for our wedding, it was her niece, long story short, she broke her arm llying with her cousins two days before the wedding, my fiance was desperate, but then one of her aunts, call her to a diferent room, when she came out she was more calm, she call me and explained the her aunt's son 6 at the time had been dressing in his older sisters clothes, but they were too big, but he was just the right size and she qas sure her sin would love to take the place, when we askes him, he was exited and said he'd love to help, one he was deessed and his hair done he looked like the perfect little flower girl, most people never found out the ones who knew were happfoe him, today he is 16 and a big healthy football player. but this is just our story, good luck.