Should I have backup bridesmaids?

Is this even a real question?

No.

How would you even explain to someone that they are a 'back up' bridesmaid? lol no.

More importantly why would you ask the first set if you felt the need to have backups.

Why?

What? No. Your bridal party is there to support and celebrate with you, not to be a space filler.

Seriously!? If you're questioning your "starting" BM, why not just ask the backup?

Yeah, probably. Just in case.

This can't be real.

I'd have a backup groom, just in case.

Bye Felicia.

HAHAHA! Very funny. If for some odd reason you're a real human, the answer is a definitive "NO."

No. Bridesmaids are not props. They are friends, there to support you and celebrate with you.

I would, in your head. I wouldn't discuss it beyond you and your FH though. We had a groomsmen back out two weeks before our wedding, and since both my FH and I had that conversation, we knew who to ask to fill in.

DON'T tell them though. They don't need to know. But it took a lot of stress off of us to already know who we would ask.

NO

Um they will definitely know when they are asked two weeks before the wedding. Or if they aren't asked when everyone else is for that matter.

What....?

Um why would you even ask someone to "fill in"? If someone backs out, you do NOT replace them. If someone came to me and said "Hey, guess what, one of my bridesmaids backed out at the last minute, do you want to fill in?" I would be super offended. It's telling that person that they didn't make the cut the first time, but now they do! So freaking rude.

There's nothing wrong with uneven wedding parties. Just deal with it.

No; if you are asking this question that means there's concern with your 'current' bridesmaids. And to that I say, eliminate or minimize your wedding party.

Well of course they would know. But if they are good friends that you would consider to ask them, they would understand. We asked one of my bridesmaid's husband's to fill in. It worked out perfectly.

Same thing happened to my Husband. He was in a wedding back in september that he was asked to be a part of in August. one of the groomsmen backed out. He had no issues that he was being asked last minute, just wanted to make it easy on his friend.

Soon to Be Mrs. Compton, just because you and your spouse were not offended does not mean another person would not be. It is extremely rude to ask someone weeks before your wedding to run out and purchase a dress, pay for expedited delivery and alterations because you need a back up.