Should I have backup bridesmaids?

I'm with BunnyLove. Asking someone to fill in at the last minute is absolutely horrendous. Great that you guys weren't offended, but it's a crazy rude thing to do.

You are LITERALLY telling someone that they weren't good enough to make the cut, but since someone else dropped out, now they made it. Like they were your B-team and now that the starting quarterback got hurt, they're getting put in the game. That you just need another body up on the altar to fill things out.

These people are your friends, not props that you're using to make your day look better. Ugh.

I think your FH might need a backup bride. You know, just in case!

I also would find it rude to ask someone to fill in last minute. I think it would be better to just have an uneven bridal party at that point. Uneven numbers doesn't hurt anything, but this approach could hurt a friend.

No, just NO.

It depends if these bridesmaids really can't be in the wedding it should be a good reason for them not being in ur wedding. The way I see it is that it better be death in the family or there kids are really sick. I would as talk to FH about before I have a backup BM.

Do you have a backup best friend? Of course not. You shouldn't have backup BMs for the same reason. Your BMs should be the people you feel so close to that you really want to have them beside you on your big day. There is no fixed number of people needed. So if the people are that close to you, include them from the beginning. If they are not, then don't ask them. You never need "substitutes."

You have a year and a half before your wedding. If you are questioning your people, don't ask them yet. People you are close to now may not be a close to you in a year's time. Don't ask your wedding party until next summer.

And for the love of everything good in this world, do not have backup bridesmaids.

I'm waiting for the "why is everyone on here so mean? Why couldn't anyone agree with me?"

Honestly, having someone in mind, in your head, is not a bad idea...sometimes I want to kick my sister out...and ask my niece instead, but that's if I really felt the need to have another person because my party is SMALL...3 BMs, one is going into the Navy and will be in training up until my wedding...and if she doesn't get that time off I will be pissed. She knew about the wedding before she signed up, and she won't be here for a lot of the bridal party stuff but she's kind of irreplaceable, but my sister on the other hand...is turning into a DIVA over what color she will and will not wear for her dress...idc about the style of dress BUT everyone will be wearing the same color, idc how much she hates the variation of pink.

Really though, not THAT stupid of a question...girls are just flat out bitches even if they are your closest friends etc. My bridal party are the people I've confided in the most in my life but that doesn't mean that I won't turn into a bridezilla and want to kick one of them out...but that's just me...I've considered having one of my guy friends be my BM, less drama and he will wear whatever I want him to wear

My vote is no.

My advice is don't ask anyone now to be in your bridal party since your wedding is still so far away. Chances are you might change your mind. I asked people to be in my bridal party six months prior to the wedding.

Obviously a troll. There is zero details in the post and OP has not been back for any comments.

I thought the same as @Eylse, but she's commented on other posts and started other posts and interacted. I think everyone scared her away because of this question. I wouldn't want to come back and comment if I was here!

I actually have the same question... i have a bridesmaid that I’d going to be in another state and will be having a baby 3 weeks before my wedding date. You’re not cleared to fly after the 6 week after birth check up, so what do i do? Just be one less girl? Have a back up? She didn’t have to tell me this far in advance but she did.