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Andrea
Master January 2021

Should i be wary of this baker?

Andrea, on August 1, 2019 at 11:30 AM

Posted in Etiquette and Advice 64

Hi everyone, This is my situation. My mom recommended me to a baker friend that she has. My mom said her cakes are delicious and I saw pictures and admittedly they look impressive. We spoke about my wedding cake vision (single tier cake plus 100 + cupcakes to make a tower) and she was able to give...

Hi everyone,

This is my situation. My mom recommended me to a baker friend that she has. My mom said her cakes are delicious and I saw pictures and admittedly they look impressive. We spoke about my wedding cake vision (single tier cake plus 100 + cupcakes to make a tower) and she was able to give me a breakdown on price and everything. My mom is paying for the cake + catering. Well. The baker sent me the contract. I don't plan on signing anything until I try her goods myself. My daughter's bday is coming up this month, and my mom encouraged me to ask her if she could bake a cake for my daughter' bday which would double up as a "tasting." The baker rejected this, saying that "it's too hot to make cakes." I found this to be very odd. Bakers should be able to adapt to all weather conditions, no?

Then, the baker suggested that she can bring 12 cupcakes for me to sample at my daughter's birthday (the flavours of the cupcakes are the ones I asked her to make for the wedding) and then I can make my decision from there. I don't mind doing the tasting, but I'm worried about her rejection to make my daughter's birthday. She is a graduate of pastry arts. She is a baker. "I can't bake a cake for your daughter's birthday because it's too hot, the buttercream can melt." Sure, buttercream can melt but wouldn't bakers know how to do temperature control and things of that nature? Am I overreacting here? Because I am now worried that she'll make some excuse for my wedding. My wedding is April 18. Where I live, April can be really warm or still somewhat cold. So what if she makes an excuse? Any thoughts? Should I tread lightly?

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  • Andrea
    Master January 2021
    Andrea ·
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    Hi Date twin!!

    Yeah Jennifer, it's super sketchy and I'm done with her now. I have to look elsewhere. But it's best to be safe than sorry.

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  • Jennifer
    VIP August 2021
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    For sure! Best of luck in your search! Smiley smile

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  • Angel
    Just Said Yes January 2020
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    I sometimes feel people go with the old fashioned or old school thought that the mother and Father of the Bride are paying for everything so they have all the choices decisions, I recently attended a wedding of a friend of mine and her and her husband paid for the entire thing yet at the reception the people involved with the reception venue kept approaching the mother and Father of the Bride falling over themselves to please them asking them if everything was okay did everything taste good everything look good and instead of the parents redirecting them to the bride and groom they loved all the attention and many of the things the couple wanted taking care of went to the wayside they were out to please the parents thinking they're the ones that paid for it
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  • Naikesha
    Super September 2020
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    Girl get you a real baker for your weeding and daughter's birthday. please don't leave yourself vulnerable and open to potential disappointment.

    Wedding planing is already stressful, you don't need any extra stress. I bake as a hobby as well and I'm not sure what her statement even means. I've made cakes in my home in 90 degree weather and had them outside on display before cutting.

    Your gut is already talking to you hence this post. Ultimately it's your choice and I understand the significance of it being your mom's friend but a birthday cake and your wedding is two totally different things. Good Luck on wedding planning and congrats on your upcoming nuptials.

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